BDSM is Love

It’s amazing how good I feel today when I’ve been doing practically nothing. My radio show this morning was classical music and I am surprised to be asked to do it again next Sunday. I didn’t expect people to appreciate it. I enjoyed it, and so there is a new show on Sundays. Hopefully my readers are tuning in occasionally and enjoying the music that I put on air. It’s different every day of the week.

Tomorrow I have my job interview and I’m a little nervous. It’s not like I have anything to worry about, but I haven’t had a job in 2 years. Hopefully I can get going at a job very soon. I’m tired of never having any money to do anything. Tomorrow night is the D/s Forum. We will be talking about subdrop.

For me, I have not experienced a drop that was more than just a tearful episode or severe aches and pains up to days later. It will be interesting what others have to say about it. I have learned the subspace can have psychological and physical symptoms and that everyone experiences it differently. I also read, and thought very curious that subspace is more common in committed relationships than casual ones. I feel that this may be because you are more attached and allow yourself to be more open to altered states of subspace. The heavier the subspace, the more chance that you can get sub drop.

I found a common feature in the essays I read. It was the factor of aftercare. It is emphasized over and over. However it’s not really taught anywhere. Master has had to learn from my cues and perhaps that is how it is best done. He knows when I need cuddling and also when I need a hot bath. I know when he just wants to lay there holding me and when he wants to jump up and go do something afterwards. You just learn from your partner what is needed after a scene and what you truely want from them as you recover from the intense interaction.

I also looked up ideas on how to recover from depression. The reason I did this is because I seemed to think that there was a similar feature to subdrop that there is to depression. Suggestions of hot baths, not sleeping too much, walking in the afternoons, enjoying sunshine and not spending all your time alone were all things that could be applied to recovery from subdrop as well.

My favorite essay from the ones I read was from The D/s Garden. The essay was titled, “Sub Drop” and written by Nahdia. You can find it here.

–luna