BDSM is Love

More on Aftercare, becuase I personally find it very important to a scene.

Within aftercare the two people recover physically and mentally from the events. A scene is very powerful and can be intense. Recovery from this can include applying lotion to the sore areas, taking a bath or shower, holding each other, cuddling, sex (if not done during the scene), eating, drinking fluids and talking.

This aftercare goes further in some cases to days after the play. It depends on each person. It is, in my opinion, more prevailent in commited relationships than in casual playing. I feel this is because there is a more emotional connection involved. This is not to say that a need for aftercare isn’t needed in some play situations.

As with everything I say, there are differences of opinion. You have your right to yours as I do mine. Many do not do aftercare, I am not trying to say that they should change who they are. There are friends that I know don’t want aftercare. That’s all good for them.

–luna

Darren Hayes - Insatiable