BDSM is Love

Pain isn’t enjoyable to all people, and you don’t have to enjoy pain to be into BDSM. If you remember from my definition of BDSM, there are many facets and you can pick an choose. Maybe you only like bondage, or maybe it’s the power exchange that you really draw to. Either way it doesn’t have to involve pain at all. For those that it does involve pain, like me, also enjoy other aspects of BDSM.

The assumption that it is all about pain is because that is the most prominant and the most conflicted with mainstream thought. When BDSM is mentioned in social circles it is the sensation play that is brought out first when other things are just a backdrop. In truth the power exchange is what is the forefront of BDSM. Without the top and bottom, the play can not happen. It must be consensual and enjoyable by both parties.

–luna

Xhibit - Choke Me, Spank Me, Pull My Hair