BDSM is Love

Yes this can be found elsewhere on my site, but what do you expect for countdown to end of ‘thon? It’s still theme important.

What does the BDSM Emblem mean?
The BDSM emblem has no “obvious” symbolism because it was created to be enigmatic. To the vanilla observer who would be put off by BDSM, [...]

This is a ball gag. There are many versions of gags and well, just about anything can be used as a gag. I do not have a ball gag yet, but I do hope to get on in the near future. If you don’t know what this is for… it’s to silence the submissive. One [...]

All forms of bondage and play spanking, biting and pinching, scratching and teasing are forms of BDSM. Kinky is kinky whether you want to admit it or not. It doesn’t mean that you want to enter the BDSM lifestyle, you can just test it out and enjoy kinkyness for yourself. No harm in that. However [...]

Yes ladies and gentlemen, that’s rope in the picture and on of my favorite toys to talk about! It can be used in bondage, or turned into an impliment of torture. It leads to intricate tying and knots, fancy bondage techniques and many many colors are available.
There are two schools of thought on rope bondage; [...]

We all know from hearing about professional dominatrix services that there are females in top and Domme positions. There are also a decent number of male submissives to balance the scale. It is stereotypical that submissives are women because of societal standards to keep women subservient to men.
And now, because I can’t think of anything [...]

This one is a load o crock. BDSM is different to different people, different regions, nations and worlds. No one does BDSM the say way, thus there isn’t a known protocol followed amidst groups regionally let alone internationally. This also goes to say that Leather Houses that say they have been in existence and taught [...]

This is the other side of the previous post. In this case, no you are not. Granted there are times and places for all behavior, you should treat everyone with respect and not push yourself into the limelight more than any other. It’s not about how many times you are getting noticed but about how [...]

This is a toy I’ve not had the pleasure of experiencing yet. I’ve heard about it though. It’s a strap of leather that has been split in two with a wooden handle. I have heard it has a sharp sting and leaves lovely welts. Their origin and main use to the present day is in [...]

Well, yes and no.
You are expected to be exactly as you are. How are people to get to know you if you are pretending to be someone else? And if you looking for a partner, being yourself is what attracts them, not being who you think you should be around them.
Within the confines of a [...]

This is an online phenomenon. People come into a chat room and the first submissive they see (uncapped nick)…
MasterLordDomSir: Down on your knees slave and service me!
littlesubbie: Um, pardon?
MasterLordDomSir: I’m a Master, been in the lifestyle for 20 years, I’m 32 and you will obey me.
littlesubbie: 20 years? You were 12 [...]

This may seem cheesy to some of you, but the hand is an awesome BDSM toy. It can do many many things that another toy just can’t do. Besides sexually tease your partner it is an excellent spanking tool *grin* and the tactile contact of the partner to the bottom is very emotional and draws [...]

Submissive men are some of the strongest mental figures I know in the lifestyle. They are able to come to a Dominant and fully submit when the world around them tells him he should be strong and in control. They are able to take down the walls that they put up for the outside world [...]

So not true. If you take anything from my posts today, let it be that everyone is different and has different preferences. I have said that you don’t have to be into pain at all to be in BDSM. Everyone finds their niche. A couple of my friends in the scene are what I would [...]

While it is supposed that abused people need more love and care than others it can’t be typecast. The majority of people I know have not been abused as children. There is no cause and effect relationship between childhood abuse and becoming a BDSM practitioner.
No song this time, sorry folks.
–luna

Nipple clamps come in all sorts and shapes, from pinching to grabbing, strong to weak and everything in between. Anything that can grab a nipple and pinch it is a nipple clamp. The basics are clothespins (and the cheapest). The ones in the picture are my favorites: Japanese clover clamps. They have a special trick. [...]

This goes a lot into the your kink isn’t my kink. It’s all about acceptance. There is no one right way to do anything. There may be safety issues that need to be followed, but other than that do as you will, find what pleases you and your partner and stick to that. Don’t let [...]

It was once considered a mental illness yes. S&M as it was called then was taboo and the society shunned those that participated it by placing them in mental institutions and processed through counseling to believe what they desired was wrong. In The PLEASURE of the PAIN Why Some People Need S & M - [...]

The net and magazines are only out for one thing- profits. Of course they are going to have the beautiful models in the best fetish gear all perfect with no flaws, no flab, no scars, no oddities at all. But we all know that regular people exist and they exist in BDSM scenes too. I’m [...]

This essential piece of equipment comes in handy in any situation where mild to extreme bondage is used. These cuffs are comfortable and have rings for tie down points. Wrist and ankle cuffs are handy in a bind, or if you don’t have expertise in rope tying. The can also be adornments for the submissive [...]

This post is going to be plain and simple. Just because we like to do other things that involve pain, bondage, humiliation, or extreme sensation doesn’t mean we don’t like a good fucking every now and again… in fact… a lot actually. BDSMers are perfectly capable of having “normal” sex.
–luna
Color Me Badd - I Wanna [...]