BDSM is Love

From Submissive Journal Prompts: Can BDSM be considered a sexual orientation?

I’ve recently been of the volition that sexual orientation can not only describe your gender specific sexual identity but also the differences in how you enjoy sex. For example, someone with an extreme but healthy fetish would have that fetish as a requirement for sex, just as being heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual is an identifier for each person. For someone such as myself, sex isn’t fullfilling if it does not have any elements of power exchange or SM. I do not get the same enjoyment from regular sex than I do with Power sex. This is not to say that I can’t have regular sex, it’s just my preference is Power Exchange and SM.

Defining sexual orientation is not an easy task because as the years progress, sexologists have found more and more paraphilias and personal sexual choices to include into the definition.

My choice to be submissive is not part of my sexual orientation, but a part of my lifestyle choice. I have always been able to keep those two separate. It is perhaps why I feel I could top someone in bed without difficulty but can not be Dominant outside the bedroom.

Resources about sexual orientation:

Sexual Orientation at Wikipedia

Defining Sexual Orientation

Sado-Masochism Might be ‘Sexual Orientation’

3rd Sex?

–luna