BDSM is Love

I’m blogging for the Institute for 21st Century Relationships.

The Institute was founded at the dawn of the new millennium (July 2000) to help people create lasting intimate relationships that will work in our present world. We are a research and educational organization, guided by distinguished researchers, academics, clinicians, and other professionals, and devoted to studying and educating the public about the various new forms of intimate relationships being chosen in today’s world. We are also dedicated to supporting the proposition that competent adults have a basic human right to choose for themselves the form their intimate relationship should take, and to be given education and support to help them make that choice work for them.

Looking at all the evidence, our founders couldn’t avoid concluding that a “one size fits all” institution whose present conception is largely based on the fiction of medieval troubadours - i.e., monogamous legal marriage - is proving increasingly ill suited for many completely respectable and responsible people today.

We believe the proven cost in human distress, endangered children, broken homes, and social upheaval inherent in a reflexive demand for “monolithic monogamy” has simply become too high to bear.