BDSM is Love

It would look nice if I answered my own questions now wouldn’t it?

Master and I have always been a D/s relationship.  He’s not the first relationship I’ve had but the first D/s one; truly. Reflecting back on the way I was raised and the way I thought a relationship should be I’ve never been more complete and happy. While I do have my own bouts of depression and sadness as I believe everyone does, our relationship is the rock upon which I stand.

With Master by my side, I’ve felt love in so many more ways and at so many more levels than I ever have. It’s not just the physical love that I’m in constant awe of him; it’s the emotional pedestal I’m on with him, the enduring passion that smolders under the surface when we are in public and bursting forth in private. We are more affectionate than what I see out of others in public, flirty and completely the ‘honeymoon’ couple. A honeymoon that has lasted almost 3 years. When we are out we have to be touching, I love to smile at him and he loves to nibble the back of my neck and swat my ass. He makes me feel like a kid again, a girl with a crush that ultimately gets the guy (does that ever happen?). He is my greatest fantasy and my every waking dream.

The role separation of Dominant and submissive has given my life structure and form; it has provided me with a path to follow and I long to wander the many trails before me. I feel complete when he places me at his feet, when he buckles the cuffs or when asked to serve him.  My personality is a driving personality. I love to make sure things get done and done right. It may not be a good personality trait to have and be submissive, but it works for us. He likes that I’m organized and make sure his life is easy and smooth. We have grown and learned about each other these past years and it has made us appreciate what each has to offer. We are who we are with each other and are willing to accept that or change ourselves to adapt.

The physical part of our BDSM life is icing on the cake. It’s powerful, intense, passionate, fun. Sometimes clumsy, awkward and choppy. It is our experiences, our desire to learn more about each other, to perfect technique and find new highs that will continue to drive our sadomasochistic desires with each other. Master is first and foremost a sexual being but he gets these urges for pain infliction and a newfound passion for rope bondage work. These things make me feel so loved in his embrace — be it hands or rope.

All of these things has made our relationship the most powerful elixir of my life. I draw from it like I breathe air; each and every day I find more to enhance our relationship. Through struggle we learn to please and through happiness we find the peace within our souls as they join. We really are one spiritual being in two bodies. Two halves of the whole.

This is how BDSM has enhanced our relationship.

–luna