My Sage Knowledge
Now, reflect on the previous post where we have two different couples. Did you decide which, if either, are in an abusive relationship?
Here’s what comments had to say:
Luka says: Seems pretty clear to me. The woman in the first situation is being abused. The woman in the second situation is not.
If the D/s is consensual then it’s not abuse, I would say.
His Mija says: No doubt the first relationship the Vanilla one is the abusive relationship. Great post.
Edrei says: The first is sexual abuse, the second isn’t.
To my knowledge, dominance isn’t about the abuse of power, it’s knowing how far you can go and providing the security in the relationship with that dominance. The second wife feels secure in the relationship. Even if their actions seems otherwise, the husband still comforts her at the end of it.
The first has no comfort. It has no security. The wife is ashamed and scared. That’s abuse, not just a dominant submissive relationship.
YP says: The first one is abuse… (unless of course, the wife is secretly happy in that relationship… although from what you say, i doubt it)
I believe that as long as everything that happens is consensual, it doesn’t qualify as abuse. Assuming the husband (or Dominant) in the 2nd relationship is not doing anything that was not agreed upon, that he is not forcing the wife (or submissive) to do anything that is a hard limit, then I don’t think it is abuse.
Aurora says: I agree with the other two comments. The first is abuse, the second is a loving D/s relationship.
Now, my thoughts…
The first relationship is domestic violence, pure and simple. There is no hint that the couple agree to the type of sex that the man is forcing in the woman and she is left sad and crying at the end.
In a consensual BDSM relationship there can be sex just like this. There is no abuse because the woman has agreed to and probably likes the type of treatment she gets. She is still loved and feels that way.
Pretty easy?
Keep an eye out for the next Comparison Relationship
I'm luna, KnyghtMare's submissive since 2004. I'm a BBW with brown hair and blue eyes. I've been married, separated, almost divorced now; living with my Master.
Master placed his permanent collar on me January 27, 2006. I'm learning and growing into the perfect submissive for him. I'm changing my behaviors, my attitude and my thought processes to become a better person.
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