BDSM is Love

Norische has a couple essays that deal with warning signs of dangerous situations and people. This first one is titled: Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants

She gives a few key things to look out for in Dominants that are bad news.

• If someone submits to you because they fear you, then you are a bully not a Dominant.
• If someone submits to you because you give him or her expensive presents then you are a pimp not a Dominant.
• If someone submits to you because you threaten to leave or abandon him or her if they refuse then you are a manipulator, not a Dominant.
• If someone submits to you because you wont leave him or her alone if they don\’t then you are a predator not a Dominant.
• If someone submits to you because you will beat him or her if they don\’t then you are an abuser not a Dominant.

I encourage everyone to go read the rest of the essay.

–luna