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Sex Advice: Vegan BDSM

zorro_leather.jpgSheana asks: Are there a lot of vegans in your leather community? And what do they do about the conflict?

Well, I don’t know exact numbers for vegans, but I would assume it’s the same concentration as in the world at large. I know of a few in Iowa that I’ve spoken to personally. For those that may not know what the conflict is; most of the toys that are employed in BDSM are made of leather. Vegans will not use animal products. There are a few BDSM toy stores that cater to this area. Here’s a couple I found. Many of the BDSM practitioners make all their own toys.

Adam and Gillian’s

Getkinky!

–luna

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1:36am July 29th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Sex Advice: Swing Clubs

aftersextowel.gifFrykitty asks: In Portland there’s a notorious swing club called Ace of Hearts. It’s had to move several times. Right now it’s on 39th. Anyway, it’s just a discreet little place with the ace of hearts sign out, and little else. Can’t see in, naturally. What would happen, do you think, if someone just walked into some place like that? Welcoming? Tossed out the back?

The rules of a swingers club are quite varied, but here’s the general rules. You can’t just walk into a club and expect to be allowed in without a rigorous check of your identity, confirmation that you know what you are here for ( not just a casual lay). Singles are not allowed at all; what’s the point of swinging with yourself! Some clubs have fees, others require references from other members of the club or nearby clubs. You have to sign a waiver for liability, provide condoms or another form of safe sex items.

Now as for the Ace of Hearts in Portland, they have a website with their membership terms on it!

–luna

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Sex Advice Time

howmanyhavingorgasm.jpgThat’s right folks; we’ve come to the wee hours of the morning where traveling browsers of bloggers will be more of the older crowd so what I’m going to do is open up my blog for sex questions! Now, they don’t have to be kinky in nature. I have regular sex too! I’ve done just about anything so don’t be afraid to ask me.

What do you want to know about sex? Sex safety? Kinky sex? Condoms? Other birth control? Ask me anything!

–luna

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12:34am July 29th, 2007 | 6 Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Ask luna #7: Difficulty in proving Abuse in BDSM

Is it more difficult to prove that someone has been the victim of abuse in a BDSM relationship than to prove that someone has been abused in a vanilla relationship and, if so, how does one go about proving the abuse?

It’s not really about proving abuse and more about substantiating if consent was given. If you read my previous post you’ll see the comparisons for BDSM and abuse. If a partner did not consent to the activity then it’s abuse. If there is no trust, no communication and the person feels that they aren’t being cared for it could be abuse. You are still human.

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BDSM Vs. Abuse

The key difference between S&M and Abuse, is “consent”.
Consent = Is an agreed approval of what is done and/or proposed by another.
Abuse = to use so as to injure or damage: MALTREAT
SM is

Is based on the safe, sane, consensual theory
SM is a controlled environment
SM has safe words to stop the scene
In a [...]

[ More ] 11:43pm July 28th, 2007 | 2 Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Looking for late sponsors!

Remember why we are here people, to raise money for charity. If you haven’t done so already, please go sponsor me? I’m so grateful for everyone who has turned out so far to cheer me on and give the NLA-I DVP a few dollars; why not join them?

[ More ] 11:06pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Ask luna #6: Marriage?

Would you eventually marry your Master?
I really don’t know. I’m currently still stuck in a failed marriage. We’ve been separated 4 years but neither of us wants to fork over the money (it will be me) to get a divorce.
Master asked, if I were divorced today and he asked me a year from now [...]

[ More ] 10:32pm July 28th, 2007 | 3 Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Music to my ears

Here’s some of my favorite BDSM scene music. Remember BDSM is romantic, fun, sexy, erotic and NOT abusive. Have fun!
Erotic Sounds - Great collection of mood music.
BDSM Scene -Music divided into categories
Submissive Loving - a great music selections.
I want to thank Luna for allowing me to be a guest blogger. I’ve really enjoyed it and hopefully [...]

[ More ] 9:58pm July 28th, 2007 | 1 Comment | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Great Reads

Here are some of my favorite BDSM books……Enjoy
Story of O by Pauline Reage The classic erotic novel, THE STORY OF O relates the love of a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer for Rene. As part of that intense love, she demands debasement and severe sexual and pychological tests. It is a unique work not to be missed.
The [...]

[ More ] 9:31pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Why?

Why Is Domestic Violence So Common?
The roots of domestic violence are embedded in attitudes toward women which have existed for hundreds of years. Even today there are numerous societies where a woman is treated as the property of her husband and he is seen as having the right to use physical force in relating to [...]

[ More ] 8:59pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Training

In this lifestyle theres one thing that is very common. That would be training. Everything from slave positions, behavior, to butt plug training, so i wanted to give you some great sites to look at and explore some great training.
Slave Positions: a good slave will take the time to learn all the slave positions. I [...]

[ More ] 8:30pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Safe First

Please take time to read some great BDSM safety and abuse essays.
BDSM vs Abuse: whats the difference
Safety : In the BDSM lifestyle
Safe Sane Consensual : Words to live by
Spanking and Whipping: Safety First
Saftey First : Fun Second
First Aid Kit : Never leave home without it
Please remember you still have time to sponsor and help The [...]

[ More ] 8:01pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

The Difference

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

[ More ] 7:32pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Knowledge is Power

I guess we all have our favorite BDSM websites we can’t live without. Here are a few of mine.
Personal Resource Sites:
Sir Knight’s Realm  ohhhhh yeah my bad thats mine and Sir Knight’s website.
The Iron Gate is one of the best BDSM resource sites i’ve ever come across. Luna has put her blood, sweat and tears [...]

[ More ] 6:59pm July 28th, 2007 | No Comments | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |

Greetings All

Well hello everyone. My name is His mija from Whispers in the Dark and i’m going to be a guest blogger here for a few hours while luna is at a local BDSM Munch.
I think i’ll start off talking about some of my favorite BDSM bloggers.
One of the first BDSM blogs i came across when [...]

[ More ] 6:33pm July 28th, 2007 | 1 Comment | Posted in Blogathon 2007 |
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