Thursday Question #14 Review
Yesterday I posted a question about ‘true’-ness.
Is there such a thing as a “true” slave/submissive?
No one left any comments, perhaps we are just not willing to question?
luna says:
I don’t believe there is such a thing. I do think that people confuse the terms true and natural. I do know that there is natural submission and there is behavioral submission. I’m in the later group. I don’t believe that my personality allows for natural submission at all but I want to submit with my whole being and so I do.
I think that true-ness is a spin off of those that believe there is one true way to do what it is that we do and they aren’t accepting of other people’s definitions and methods. It’s rather pig-headed of them, isn’t it? It would be like critiquing someone on the way they peel an apple. There is no one correct way, there are a variety of ways that get you to the same result; a peeled apple. Why can’t sex magic be the same way? Why can’t D/s be the same way?
It can and is. No two relationships are the same, no two people are the same so there can’t be a ‘true’ submissive. True almost always defines as ‘only one’ way. When someone tells me that I’m not a true submissive; I come back with “I am not living a false life. This is my true self and I will live up to my Master’s desires.”
It would be boring to read this blog if I was trying to live up to the ideal way that is defined by fantasy. First, it wouldn’t work. I can not be fantasy. I am real, with my own issues and stop points. This is who I am. But look back a year ago and you will see a very different person. I’m getting better all the time.
Improvement is the point of all trueness. I am true to myself. I know what I want and how to get there. That’s the best trueness to have.
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Very well said Luna! My first response to the question was pffft. Who in the hell gives the ultimate definition of what is true? I sit back and watch this topic get beat to death on the boards and it just makes me chuckle. I don’t like someone deciding for me what is supposedly proper. I think that it is on a spectrum (much like sexuality) and we all can fall somewhere on it. It doesn’t make us any less of a submissive or slave. The bigger issue is that the people are satisfied with their lives.
I think that there are people who are submissively or dominantly inclined of course. And I’ve known people who are very submissive, seemingly naturally. So I suppose I’d say that, yes, there are true submissives.
I’m not sure I believe there are “true” or “natural” anythings. I love what you said … amen! We can only be real.
Anyway, people tend to use those words in a highhorse, backhanded put-down way, at least in my hearing. For that reason alone, I’m biased against that sort of judging.