BDSM is Love

What sexual behavior won’t you do or would do only under certain conditions? Write about those to clarify your boundaries.

This week we talked about sexual limits to your relationship. Here’s what people had to say:

Mara Tudor says:
I am not crazy about anal play, and I hate it when Master does anything to my ears… it drives me crazy.

I’m also not a pain slut. I like a good flogging, but intense pain doesn’t get me off. I also don’t want my nipples abused. Played with and toyed with, fine, but abuse is bad.

Ofia says: Breath play is a no. I have asthma and I’ve been to the emergency room because of an asthma attack. That’s something I won’t fuck with, in any shape or form, what so ever. I don’t care what kind of situation I find myself in in the future.

Mara Tudor replied: Oh geez… yeah, breath play isn’t a turn-on for me. But I suspect that I’d be willing to give it a try with someone who could prove to me that they knew what they were doing. And if it were their kink.

I do know that violet wands do nothing for me. The pain they give is just not at all erotic to me, not a turn-on at all. I’ve been zapped with one plenty of times and it just ain’t for me!

luna says:

I’ve had a lot of sexual limits that I’ve reconsidered and while I haven’t given the okay yet, he knows that I’m thinking of them. Food insertions are something he keeps bringing up. I think it has to do with his enjoyment of large object insertion and dilation. Urinating on me is another one that I’ve given some thought and am still thinking about how it might affect me.

I have a really hard time with the fact that I’m allowed to masturbate and then he encounters me in the act. I freeze and can’t finish no matter what. I guess masturbation for myself has to be hidden and private and I can’t perform for him that way. I have no problems being told to masturbate for him though, only when I’m doing it and he doesn’t know.