BDSM is Love

This week we talked about Fear Play and how it enhances your play. Come see what people had to say.

Do you participate in Fear Play with your partner? What is a reoccurring fear that is enhanced in your play?

Sarah says:

Sensory deprivation was my first bottoming experience, and I love it to this day. Hell, I do it to myself! Tye me up, and my eyes close. I won’t open them unless you order me to, and then you’d better watch me, or I’ll close them again. I’ve been told that when I’m blinded, I twitch delightfully in anticipation of … whatever. Breath Play is my lover’s newest obsession, and really what spurred me into getting outside education, because it IS so edgy. I think he likes it mre than I do, but I’ve got no argument with it.

My biggest, baddest, most pervasive fear is the fear of losing control. In my day to day life I’m almost to OCD levels of detail oriented freaky micromanagement. That is the fear the my partners play off of most of the time. Take away my control and take away my abilty to plan for every contingency. Make me dependent. So miserable. SO sexy.

Mara Tudor says:

I love giving control over to Master, and I can very much get myself into the appropriate state of fear (it helps that I’m blindfolded).

For example, a hard limit is that Master is having my nipples abused. Yet, Master threatens to abuse them all the time, and it terrifies me, even though I know he will not follow through. It’s all about headspace.

So, yes, I love fear play… it’s an important part of most of our scenes. Strange, isn’t it? Even though I’m not at all afraid of Master, He can bring me practically to the point of hyperventilating, I get so scared during a scene.

But that’s what headspace is all about.

luna says:

I love blindfolds, ear plugs and sometimes gags in play. The sense of the unknown is very thrilling. Couple that with bondage and I go weak in the knees.

Breath play scares me to death. I can’t even breath the recycled air under the sheets or through a mask. I feel like I’m suffocating and I don’t like it at all.

There is a play that Master has tried several times that makes me so very scared that he has to stop. He is aggressive and forceful more than any other time. He pushes my limits to their peak and I get so scared. I start crying, I tremble and get so paranoid.

I have asked him to keep trying, that the fear I experience is part of the play, but he gets worried that he’s doing some mental damage and always stops. One day we will be able to venture into that play and I will make him proud. Until then I will continue to work towards his happiness.