BDSM is Love

What can a Dom do to show control over a submissive whether they are live in or not? These ideas have to be keeping in mind that the submissive has to work and be visible in public. They also have to keep in mind male and female submissives.

My mind went nuts over each individual activity I perform daily and thought up possible ways a Dom could control that activity from the mundane to the extreme. I thought it would be fun to have an array of topics, listing a situation or activity that a submissive performs or would be required to perform and come up with ways the Dominant could apply rules, behavior modifications or some other reminder that they are owned. This could be and is meant to be fun and a learning experience.

Who knows, maybe some of these ideas will end up being a submissive’s new rules *cheeky grin*

Here are my ideas:

• What hours of the day the submissive is allowed to drive.
• What route to take to work.
• How to hold their hands on the steering wheel.
• If music is allowed and/or what kind of music.
• If they are allowed to talk on the cell phone.
• How tight to make the seat belt.
• Saying a mantra or phrase while driving.
• Which hand to open the door.
• Whether they are chauffeur when Dominant is present.
• If they are allowed to car pool.
• Which seat they sit in when not driving.

Other suggested ideas:

Ms Bonnie:

• What clothes the submissive should wear, or not wear.
• How should the submissive have his/her hair.
• If the submissive is allowed to wear jewelry while in the car.

Ms Soft:

• Since my submissive is male, I expect all the traditional gentleman traditions, having the vehicle warmed up, picking me up at the door, opening the door for me, assisting me with my seat belt, closing the door.
• Making sure the temperature is comfortable to me.
• Providing me with a blanket if the weather is cold.
• Providing a pillow, if it is a late night, or if I am tired.
• Laying a towel on the floor so I can take my shoes off.
• Letting me off at the door, then parking the vehicle.
• Can only make right/or left turns.

• When parking the car, must pick the furthest from the door.
• Must exit/enter the vehicle from the passenger side, of course when their Dom/Domme is not present.
• Can only put in a certain amount of gas - $23.45 or 12.34 gallons, for example.

harderNrock:

• How long to sit at a stop sign.
• How far in advance to signal.
• How many vehicles you must yield to (at a busy freeway entrance for example).
• Making them wave at certain colored cars, whether they know the person or not.
• How long they must hold bodily functions on an extended trip.
• Making them make up a story for any personalized plates.
• What speed they can drive at, say 23 in a 25… 68 on the interstate.
• Driving barefoot (not in winter weather??)

Joy:

• Having to relinquish and ask permission for one’s driver’s license and other identification before being allowed to drive anywhere.

muse:

• Kneel and beg permission for the keys if living with them.If not… email and beg permission to drive if something came up, and contacting their dom on the phone, IM or email?

Sherri:

• Must perform kegel exercises [or penis lifts] at stop lights.