BDSM is Love

From My Bottom Smarts Spanko Brunch: What traits make a great spanker?

A great spanker is as unique and individual as the spankee. When I was first exploring BDSM I couldn’t tell you the difference between one person’s play style and another. Now I can see it within moments of their first strike.

The traits I see as being very important to a great spanker are specific to what I see and need in a spanker. These can and will be different for everyone that may come across this page. You can take this as a stepping off point to come up with your own list.

Focus: A great spanker will maintain their focus on the spankee throughout the session. They are not easily distracted by the spankees giggling, whining, sighing or other verbal responses. In fact, the responses the spanker gets are encouraged and brought out more as the spanker gets more in tune with the way the spanking is having an effect.

Variety: No great spanker would make this list if they do not have a variety of implements and striking styles. Any spankee will tell you that a hand spanking in the same motion, same speed and same impact does get boring after awhile. A spanker that can stir it up with different strikes, surprising caresses inbetween impacts and toys you never saw before will make a spanking much more entertaining for both parties.

Concentration: A great spanker should have good concentration. They will be able to see exactly where they are striking and remember what sort of response they are getting with each implement and strike pattern they try. A spanker in concentration will begin to make beautiful music with their spankee and the toys they use.

Knowledge: As with most anything, a great spanking comes with a knowledgeable spanker. A spanker that comes with experience, lots of practice and a knowledge of the spankee will draw out a better session than one who does not know anything about the subject or the play.

Sense of Humor: With all play, there can be an element of fun and joking from both parties. A great spanker can easily go with the punches and toss out a few smart remarks back at the spankee. This is especially effective when the spankee complains about it hurting too much or that they don’t find that cane to be a fair toy.

–luna

PS: Master mentioned that I have focus and concentration on here. He sees them as the same thing. I guess I don’t. Anyone else have an opinion?