BDSM is Love

So a little while ago luna and I celebrated a year of her being collared by me. This seems like as good a time as any to start more intensive training in our relationship.

Most of you will probably think that 3 and a quarter years is a long time to wait before getting into the nitty-gritty of training but for us it’s perfect. I’ve already been training luna, after a fashion, to be a more polite, courteous and thoughtful person. It’s also important to consider where we started, where we are now and how far we’ve both come.

For luna’s part, she started as a girl caught in the mindset “am I really a submissive?” and we had many discussions on this topic. People have told her before that she’s more Dom than sub. I disagreed with this and saw more sub than Top* in her. Now she still has this question in her mind from time to time but it’s mostly been changed to “I am Master’s submissive” and each layer of training, structure and control I place over her empowers this thought. She has also “completed” basic training with me, her friends have even commented on how she is better behaved and more thoughtful now than before she was with me.

As for myself I have journeyed from a timid, reclusive Dom-wannabe to a fully-fledged Dom in control of his submissive. I’ve been mastering many facets of play, control and structure for my girl and raising myself above luna as a Dom and not a push-over timid wannabe.

So I feel it’s a good time to begin the more rigorous training with her. Top of the list are taking the good behavior and courtesy to a higher level in the form of language training. Both towards me, and others who identify as Dom, her language must always be resigning control and authority. This doesn’t mean others have any control over her but I feel that it’s fitting for her language to be structured in away that has absolutely no authority in the words or the tone.
For example the sentance “I want to get some candy please?” should be turned into “Master, can I have some candy please?”.
The hardest part of this for me is to nail down in rules exactly when addressing me as Master or others as Sir/Ma’am is required. I have my own sense of when it should be used but it’s so damn hard to nail down.
Anybody with any suggestions on this point please please PLEASE leave a comment here for me. =)

There is some more training than this but I’ve already filled up a blog post now.

Lastly I want to mention the introduction of the Punishment Book.
I have a black book that sits on my desk and whenever luna misbehaves the transgression is noted with a date and time. Come Sunday the book is reviewed and luna makes amends for her behavior. I can see the exercise going into this within a week or two.

*In my opinion a Dom is a Dominant, a person who owns a submissive(s), and a Top is a play partner who acts as the controlling influence in a play scene.