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Is there an age where you should consider retiring from BDSM activities? Is there an age that you shouldn’t play at public events any more? Can you get too old for the Lifestyle?
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As you get older, there may be things that you can’t do anymore due to physical infirmities, lack of flexibility, recurring injuries, and the like. And you may not get the “oohs” and “aahs” over your gorgeous body that you did when you were younger and in your full-bloom of beauty. But, you know what? You’re only as young as you feel. I’ve been to events where people clearly in their 60’s were playing together, gloriously nude, experienced lifestylers, and still clearly in love with each other. And I’d rather see that any day than some beautiful emo wannabes pretending to “hurt” each other!
Fragile Sound replied on May 15th, 2008 1:21 am:
I agree with Mara. You are never too old. There is a Dom here; a regular at several clubs. He’s a lean, willowy man with a slight stoop in his upper back like the weight of the world might have finally beaten a hair of his ramrod posture. He wears tweed and walks with an silver topped oak cane. He’s 70 if he’s a day, and probably older.
I’ve never seen him scene without his clothes, but I’ve seen him at protocol events. His presence is overwhelming, his connection with his partner is palpable, and Something about the way he handles that cane tells me that it is a regular feature in their play. It’s intense. I would be less of a bottom without seeing him as a top.
As for not getting ooh’s and aah’s over your sexy body … My Dom’s last play partner is a woman in her late 50’s. She’s 5′2″ with a bristle of spiked silver hair, blue eyes that can strike you dumb at 10 paces, and a system of tribal tattoos that works from her ankles, up her lags, over her hips and ribs, across her back and shoulders, and down her arms. She’s an intensely beautiful woman, and when she’s nude and bound to a cross, the room takes notice.
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I wouldn’t think that “age” would be a factor to taking it “out” of my life or say retiring from it- I imagine I’d just have to adjust to new physical limitations due to the chance of my developing brittle, creaking bones and joints, along with the thinner/weaker skin, then again, if I can get myself into great shape and keep fit in my Golden Years
I might be able to handle more than some youngsters … positive thinking never hurt - hahaha…
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I met a guy at a spanking party who is so old he doesnt remember his own age at various times he’s said its 95.98,99. We are not sure which is right but certainly he is over 90. He is still extremely accurate with the cane. Grimly I know, will not stop tormenting me until he’s in his coffin, he’s too active to let aging stop his fun! I think if you can keep young at heart then you can keep going (bearing in mind what your body says no to!). I dont see why there should be an age of retirement, in fact I think a lot of the more skilled and experienced members of our community are middle aged + so why stop that. The youngsters have to learn off someone after all!! TG xx
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Defintetly agree with the above!! I have never been to a much or gotten to meet and see others play. But as long as your still sane..lol
~~jane
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Hee hee… great responses to a great post, Luna. I should point out that my mother is still active sexually (I know this only anecdotally, of course — TMI) and my grandmother spoke recently of not “gettin’ enough,” and she’s in her 90’s! So I suspect that Master and I will be playing as much as our various accumulated infirmities will allow until they plant us in the ground. I doubt that Master will ever have a problem “down there,” since I know *exactly* how to make it stand up and take notice (Master has taught me well). And I know that I will always, always, always want him!
I can speak from experience here. My Master is 59 and a I am 50 years old. We’ve been married for 21 years. I was his submissive for almost 10 years and 3 years ago I formally became his slave. We are still very active in our BDSM activities but tend to play at home rather than in public. Occassionaly we have other BDSM couples over and scene together or do some demo’s or teaching. I don’t think we’ll ever stop completely, just adjust for our age.