That’s an Order
I’d like to think that I’m obedient. Master says I’m a good girl more often than I’ve been disciplined for doing wrong. That tells me I’m doing something right. Right?
Well lately Master has commented on my selective obedience. Things he says, if not said ‘just right’ go into my brain as a suggestion or comment and not an order or command. So I don’t do it, I just take it as something that would be nice, but not required.
Take an exchange we had a couple nights ago.
“Max(kitty), stop licking me that’s just weird.”
“Maybe Max is telling you that you stink and need a bath.”
“So are you saying I stink?”
“Now you know I’m not the type of person to say things like that. But yes, you do.”
“Well thanks, but you stink too sometimes. It’s bedtime. I was thinking of just going to sleep and bathing tomorrow.”
“No, I think you should bathe now so that when I come to bed you don’t stink.”
“I’d rather just go to sleep Master.”
Right there, did you get it? If you took the order out of context you could see clearly that he was telling me to go take a bath, but I just shrugged it off as a suggestion or preference for what he’d want of me. Needless to say we began talking about how I don’t listen to all of his commands and orders. I told him that maybe it was because they didn’t sound like orders.
I suggested a trigger to help me learn where commands are located in his speech. I feel that after a while of doing that, I should begin to subconciously know then they happen and do it without the trigger. The agreed upon trigger is ‘That’s an Order’. Pretty simple right?
We’ll see. It takes some thought on his side too to check and see if I’m obeying of if he needs to use the trigger phrase.
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Would it be helpful for you to ask whether something is a suggestion or a requirement? (I realize if your brain doesn’t even process the fact that it might be an order, this suggestion won’t help).
…but I just shrugged it off as a suggestion or preference for what he’d want of me
I don’t know your master, but with mine a preference is pretty close to an order anyway. I won’t get punished for not doing it, but there’s a very fine line between preference and order in his head, and mine. Nevertheless, I sometimes struggle with things that don’t cross that line, and do what I want instead because he didn’t “make” me. Hmm.
luna replied on July 8th, 2008 1:58 pm:
Exactly the thought, he didn’t make me. Now it’s getting to where he wants me to take his suggestions and volunteer to do them to please him. I consider this a step up and of course makes it harder for me to recognize. It’s not as clear cut. Although I am pretty happy that he feels I’m ready for this step
I still sometimes have problems recognising orders and suggestions. I sometimes get really tunnel visioned on one thing and unless he says, “no, don’t do that,” I completely miss him telling me that I shouldn’t do it, for whatever reason.
I like to think I’m getting better, though… at least, I think I am.
I hope a trigger word helps you
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You did better than me lol. I would a of B…Done exactly what you did and not seen it as an order… Or more likey A. Gotten offended and cried. lol
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