BDSM is Love

The key difference between S&M and Abuse, is “consent”.
Consent = Is an agreed approval of what is done and/or proposed by another.
Abuse = to use so as to injure or damage: MALTREAT
SM is

Is based on the safe, sane, consensual theory
SM is a controlled environment
SM has safe words to stop the scene
In a [...]

Remember why we are here people, to raise money for charity. If you haven’t done so already, please go sponsor me? I’m so grateful for everyone who has turned out so far to cheer me on and give the NLA-I DVP a few dollars; why not join them?

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Would you eventually marry your Master?
I really don’t know. I’m currently still stuck in a failed marriage. We’ve been separated 4 years but neither of us wants to fork over the money (it will be me) to get a divorce.
Master asked, if I were divorced today and he asked me a year from now [...]

Here’s some of my favorite BDSM scene music. Remember BDSM is romantic, fun, sexy, erotic and NOT abusive. Have fun!
Erotic Sounds - Great collection of mood music.
BDSM Scene -Music divided into categories
Submissive Loving - a great music selections.
I want to thank Luna for allowing me to be a guest blogger. I’ve really enjoyed it and hopefully [...]

Here are some of my favorite BDSM books……Enjoy
Story of O by Pauline Reage The classic erotic novel, THE STORY OF O relates the love of a beautiful Parisian fashion photographer for Rene. As part of that intense love, she demands debasement and severe sexual and pychological tests. It is a unique work not to be missed.
The [...]

Why Is Domestic Violence So Common?
The roots of domestic violence are embedded in attitudes toward women which have existed for hundreds of years. Even today there are numerous societies where a woman is treated as the property of her husband and he is seen as having the right to use physical force in relating to [...]

In this lifestyle theres one thing that is very common. That would be training. Everything from slave positions, behavior, to butt plug training, so i wanted to give you some great sites to look at and explore some great training.
Slave Positions: a good slave will take the time to learn all the slave positions. I [...]

Please take time to read some great BDSM safety and abuse essays.
BDSM vs Abuse: whats the difference
Safety : In the BDSM lifestyle
Safe Sane Consensual : Words to live by
Spanking and Whipping: Safety First
Saftey First : Fun Second
First Aid Kit : Never leave home without it
Please remember you still have time to sponsor and help The [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

I guess we all have our favorite BDSM websites we can’t live without. Here are a few of mine.
Personal Resource Sites:
Sir Knight’s Realm  ohhhhh yeah my bad thats mine and Sir Knight’s website.
The Iron Gate is one of the best BDSM resource sites i’ve ever come across. Luna has put her blood, sweat and tears [...]

Well hello everyone. My name is His mija from Whispers in the Dark and i’m going to be a guest blogger here for a few hours while luna is at a local BDSM Munch.
I think i’ll start off talking about some of my favorite BDSM bloggers.
One of the first BDSM blogs i came across when [...]

So, how did you do? Could you see the signs of abuse?
In a consensual ritualized BDSM relationship this scenario would be completely normal.
I’m off to my local munch, see you at 10:30 CST, stay tuned for Mija!!
Coming up next…
Mija will be taking over to blog for 4 hours while I’m away at a local BDSM [...]

I wrote a poem to be submitted for the first game of the evening. Of course I won’t know if I won until I come back from my munch. Here’s the poem I submitted:
For a Cause
Strangers gather digitally
To raise money for charity.
No selfish gain;
A desire for change,
Blogs rise from nothing,
To spout poetry.
International friendship,
Searching for sponsorship.
Unusual [...]

Signs of abuse come in many forms. Is there abuse here?
Man and a woman are at a restaurant. The man barely says a word to the server, keeping his eyes down and only acknowledging when the woman says something to him. He does not order his own food and waits to eat until the woman [...]

I’m asking everyone to consider the importance of this cause. Feel the charity well up inside you and give. Give a dollar, give three… the small amounts do add up. Save the future victims, help the survivors. Spread the compassion.
Don’t let the idea that this is a kinky lifestyle stop you, violence is still violence. [...]

What is a typical punishment like for you? Do you get them often? Ever?
Well the punishment has to fit the crime really. The typical “I did something really bad” punishment is a caning. More cane strokes for a worse infraction.
The beauty of this is that I don’t get into trouble often. I’m generally pretty [...]

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is a wealth of resources for anything you’d like to know about domestic violence. They are having a 30th Anniversary conference next year, check it out!
Next up…
Ask luna #5-What is a typical punishment like for you? Do you get them often? Ever?

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What advice would you give to someone who wants to start engaging in BDSM?
Well, definitely don’t do what I did! I jumped in feet first without a safety net. It was reckless and dangerous and I could have wound up dead. Follow the boy scout motto: Be prepared

Have a safe call in place when [...]