BDSM is Love

Master and I spent a very long day with some great friends of ours in the BDSM community a week ago. It’s always a chance for me to behave and I seem to be more exacting about getting my rules right and obeying Master when other’s are watching. Generally I make him proud and the [...]

I’ve been trying to make the new apartment feel more like home so that I can settle and love the environment I have set up. Part of this for anyone desiring a home feeling is good curtains. Curtains bring out a character of the home and it’s occupants. Visitors are going to notice the curtains [...]

You have to love it when someone has the guts to say something that really hits home for you. I’ve seen a lot of blogs out there with the submissive is pretty much whining that the Dom isn’t Dom enough and that they don’t give theme enough direction. Or the ones who say that they [...]

In a recent thread on a forum I came across the word Celebrity Service as a form of service that you can classify as treating your owner as a celebrity in your service to them. Things such as opening doors, caufferring, ordering their food and handling service personnel all fall under this umbrella. Now I’ve [...]

This holiday weekend was pretty good overall. Friday and Saturday were great. I could have traded Sunday in for something better.
First Master and I got to really go at each other sexually and I was hungry for it all. I did a striptease and blow job for him in the living room which he said [...]

Thank god the weekend is here. This week has been the week from hell! Flooding, more flooding, loss of internet with officials saying, “No known date for restoration of services.” Thankfully, we were restored today so my hiatus wasn’t affected at all. I’m exhausted, spent 3 times as much money on gas to go the [...]

Recently Master has been bringing up scenarios that involve another submissive in our relationship on a purely part time level. We have tossed around the idea for awhile and I know we will continue to bring up the idea of a third. A lot of times I think it would be fantastic to have a [...]

Serving to serve is one form of service I provide my Master. Somehow I’ve compartmentalized it from service for pleasure. It could just be my way of providing more service to him in different ways.
An example of service to serve is when I’m not in the mood for a blow job but I know he [...]

I’ve just finished Kushiel’s Justice which if you have read the Kushiel’s Legacy Series you will want to pick this up. I’ve been waiting for 5 months for it come out in paperback and the day finally came. I love it and was doubly excited to see that there is a finally book coming soon [...]

Master spoke to me yesterday about this blog. He said that the last few posts have all been about the same thing; how content I am in my submission and my progress. He said he’s been pondering removing the blogging requirement from my rules. I’m not sure why it disturbs me that he’s thinking of [...]

When I reflect on where I’ve been and where I’m going I begin to wonder how in the world I got where I am. Five years ago seemed like such a long time ago. I was not on this journey that I am now on. I wasn’t even able to explore more than in front [...]

It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

My heart swells when I think of how lucky I am to have a Master, a love, and a companion as wonderful as my man. There is a part of me that will always behold him as the savior of my soul. When I was in a dark place he found me and brought me [...]

Thank you so much for all the wonderful comments and thoughts on Soul Mates in my Thursday Question this week. I loved reading each and every one!
My idea of soul mates really did come from fantasy romance novels as a teenager. I loved the idea of a man to come sweep me off my feet [...]

Today it is all about my attitude. Not that I’m a smart mouth and need it slapped clear off my face, but that I’m very negative. Master has always seen that in me and so have many of the readers of my blog. I don’t want to be negative and can’t really understand why I’m [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]

Sexual desire is something that I take for granted. I have it, I wax and wan and sometimes I can’t get enough. But what I have noticed is that I have problems asking for what I want. Like Master is just supposed to know that I’d like him to finger my asshole, or rub my [...]

My domestic goals are short and sweet.

Do not go to bed with dirty dishes piled in the sink. Dishes are to be washed before bedtime.
Pick up all rooms on a daily basis so that weekend cleaning does not take hours.
Make the bed daily when I get home from work.
Prepare more meals that left overs can [...]

From My Bottom Smarts
What do you believe constitutes “topping from the bottom?” Have you or your partner ever done this? If so, how was the situation handled? Are there occasions where “topping from the bottom” is acceptable or even desirable?
My definition of topping from the bottom is when the submissive begins to instruct the dominant [...]