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Reading a Fetlife thread has me thinking about myths that newcomers seem to think about when they learn about BDSM and especially the D/s lifestyle. One in particular that I’ve seen recently….
The lifestyle is not an excuse to sleep around with as many people as possible. It’s not set up like a kid in a [...]

Master and I have an idea for another website. It would be a rope bondage site. Something with tutorials and pictures, how-tos and reviews of suppliers, rope, books and other items. What we’d like to get from you is ideas for what would be useful in a site like that. How can we set it [...]

It’s very important to make Master sexually happy at every possible moment. I have a bit of learning to do in this department. I’ve always hesitated when it comes to teasing Master’s cock with my mouth and hands. I love how he can make me feel with it, so it’s my turn to show him [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

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Kaya had a moment today where she talked about begging and how she has problems with it. I’d like to say that I have problems too, but not anymore.
It has taken a lot of work. Master insists that I beg for a lot of things and I think that most Dominants choose this route to [...]

I’ve looked back through the archives lately and notice a trend. I’ve been working on some sexual training for near on 6 months! From blow jobs, to spontaneity and finally nipple clamps. It’s all to please Master and from what I can tell, progress is either non-existent or very very small. Perhaps there are things [...]

WWTCK_Arthur asks: Can daily masturbation affect your ability to produce children?
Well now that would be so sad if it were true! Unlike women, men have an unlimited supply of the little guys. Masturbation will not affect your sperm production much. In general, the more frequently a man ejaculates, the more efficiently his sperm-producing mechanisms must [...]

Sheana asks: Are there a lot of vegans in your leather community? And what do they do about the conflict?
Well, I don’t know exact numbers for vegans, but I would assume it’s the same concentration as in the world at large. I know of a few in Iowa that I’ve spoken to personally. For those [...]

Frykitty asks: In Portland there’s a notorious swing club called Ace of Hearts. It’s had to move several times. Right now it’s on 39th. Anyway, it’s just a discreet little place with the ace of hearts sign out, and little else. Can’t see in, naturally. What would happen, do you think, [...]

That’s right folks; we’ve come to the wee hours of the morning where traveling browsers of bloggers will be more of the older crowd so what I’m going to do is open up my blog for sex questions! Now, they don’t have to be kinky in nature. I have regular sex too! I’ve done just [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

What advice would you give to someone who wants to start engaging in BDSM?
Well, definitely don’t do what I did! I jumped in feet first without a safety net. It was reckless and dangerous and I could have wound up dead. Follow the boy scout motto: Be prepared

Have a safe call in place when [...]

This is by no means a complete list, in fact it’s a short list. If you know another hotline that should be on this list, please post a comment with it. Thank you!
National Domestic Violence Hotline -

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TDD)
New York Asian Women’s Center -
1-888-888-7702
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN)
1-800-656-HOPE
United States Domestic Violence Centers by State
–luna
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So, you’ve happened upon this blog and it looks interesting, it has a large archive you can’t even imagine combing through but you wonder who in the world this luna is, right?
You’ve come to the right place, because I am she. I’m now almost 30, living in my first real D/s relationship. I’m learning and [...]

To continue on the same thread that has been swimming around this blog for the past week; Master and I had a discussion about my eagerness to say no and what it means for our relationship. If you’ve been reading you know that I’ve been having problems with obedience. Master tells me he wants something [...]

This Week’s Picks
To Tell or Not to Tell… (http://lipstickexplosion.com)
“Jane Falling claims it’s best not to tell, and she writes, ‘my identity as a prostitute is too serious a secret to trust with near-strangers.’”
Anti-Anti-Pornography, Part II (http://www.teen-porn-site.com/blog)
“One question I would like to ask them is - were there any rape or child abuse cases *before* the [...]

Yes, so I’m taking a bit of my own advice when I think about my last post asking what I should write about. I should stick to things I know, perhaps things I’m exploring, as long as I don’t make it sound expert. Master says I should make sure to revise it and proofread it [...]

I am itching to do some programming, but since I have a few sites already, I really need to work on them. The issue I have is I should be writing essays for the sites, so that they have unique and interesting things on them. I’m just feeling that I don’t know enough about anything [...]