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“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.”
I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings up my view on the whole dating atmosphere within the Lifestyle. Yes, it is hard to find [...]

Note: If you want to be pimped this Blogathon, send me an email (not a comment) and I will take a look at your blog. If I like it, you get pimped. If not… well… I’m not as picky as that, it may just be a case of not enough time.
luna@the-iron-gate.com
This is to pimp JADE.
Jade [...]

I'm hopeful that we will get to play tomorrow. Master stated last night that it depends on my mood today, whatever that means. I'm going to work hard to stay happy and attentive and loving to him all day. I want and need to play so badly. I want to show him that I will [...]

I saw this on myspace and thought this would be a blast. If you like it, give it a try!
Put your music player on shuffle.
Press forward for each question.
Use the song title as the answer to the question even if they don’t make sense.
How am I feeling today?:
Tricky - Excess (Excess what?)
Will I get far [...]

I wrote this essay for the advice columns for The Iron Gate. I thought I’d share it here.
“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.”
I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings [...]

I’d like to discuss something. This is my opinion, my thoughts. I am not accusing anyone of anything. I am not exerting any expert advice.
As many of you know, I am in a weight loss group for submissives. We are there to support one another and to cheer each other on in our task to [...]

Someday, hopefully soon, I am going to remember to address Master correctly. For about 2 weeks now, since the start of my new rules, I have been failing miserably. I am supposed to address Master whenever I ask a question, answer a question or reply to an order. I haven’t done a good job and [...]

I went to the dr. yesterday. For the past week I have had a severe shoulder pain that needed some answers. The pain goes up my neck into my temples and down my arm to tingle in my fingers. He told me that it’s like tendonitis only the muscles tense up and cause pain. He [...]

When I upset Master, his response is the same each and every time. He shuts down, he goes silent and he doesn’t say anything. No one said this lifestyle was easy, no one said that relationships were easy. During difficult times are when I need more of a firm hand on my position, show me [...]

From Kindlings (www.inhischains.com/kindlings)
Do you believe the internet has made the ‘lifestyle’ more accessible to people? How has the internet impacted your lifestyle?
I believe that the internet has opened up a new world to a lot of differnet things. As far as the lifestyle, I do believe it has been a better resource for those exploring. [...]

I don’t know how else to live my life. I’ve been struggling for money since I was born and now that Master and I have our major problems right now I feel like life is at a standstill. Doomed to end in a blaze of fire and brimstone. I don’t want to get into specifics, [...]

Well, so if you’ve noticed my recent posts have been short, whiny and not too interesting to read. For that I apologize. My life truely has been interesting, and I should be happy to share it with my blog readers, and especially my Master… whom has been quite disappointed in my recent bout of [...]