BDSM is Love

1. Sex in the Morning or Sex at Night?
I love morning sex but we only get it on weekends.
2. Better Sex Music: Sade or Marvin Gaye?
Neither, I like Godsmack, NIN and Guns and Roses for sex.

3. Naughty Pics or Naughty Home Video?
I have to choose? I love both!

4. Fabulous Sex With: Dr. Doug [...]

So posting a meme….
Only two rules: You must answer yes or no. You may not explain unless someone asks.
Taken a picture naked? Yes
Made money illegally? No
Had a one night stand? Yes
Been in a fist fight? Yes
Slept with your best friend? No
Had sex in a public place? Yes
Ditched work to have sex? Yes
Slept with a member [...]

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
Everyone gets angry, but [...]

How should I behave when being punished and why my current behavior is inappropriate.
Punishment behavior is something I think is a learned behavior. As a child, you learn to cry and scream and pout, whine and all over be a terror whenever you are punished. At least that was how it was with me. I [...]

Leatherstrap asks me:
I played with a lady tonite who set out very clearly that she wanted to play rough - in fact she wanted to be brought to tears - She had a safe word which she didnt call but as the session went on it became apparent that she wasnt well - I stopped [...]

I have to say thank you to everyone who answered the Thursday Question this week about activities that give you pause. It was a tough one.
Activities that we engage in in BDSM are completely personal decisions and I feel that as long as everyone participating is aware of the risks and dangers then the choice [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

I’ve had to learn a lot about courtesy and respect since I met Master. I am ashamed to admit that my family was rude, obnoxious and crude. I picked it up and didn’t bat an eyelash when I treated people poorly. I was described by my best friend as being harsh and without tact. I [...]

I’m home from work today. I live 30 miles away from work. I have a really low tolerance of dangerous driving conditions and with the ice and snow that is in the area I just didn’t feel comfortable driving in it. My boss did a very good job making me feel guilty and trying to [...]

Swiped from All Things Spanking : The idea is to copy and paste to your own blog, and bold the things you have done.
01. Bought everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swam with wild dolphins
03. Climbed a mountain
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid
06. Held a tarantula
07. Taken a [...]

The second essay that Norische has on the subject of dangerous situation is titled, Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves
She lists and gives descriptions of submissives that may pose a problem to unsuspecting dominants. Of these she lists:

Cyber slave/sub.
The Professional Victim slave/sub.
The Show Piece [...]

Norische has a couple essays that deal with warning signs of dangerous situations and people. This first one is titled: Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants
She gives a few key things to look out for in Dominants that are bad news.

If someone submits to you [...]

When I was just getting started in BDSM, I didn’t know a lot about safety. I didn’t screen possible play partners and I rarely set up safe calls. I blame it on ignorance or naiveness.
I went off alone late at night for what turned out to really be a booty call. I didn’t know [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

I wrote a poem to be submitted for the first game of the evening. Of course I won’t know if I won until I come back from my munch. Here’s the poem I submitted:
For a Cause
Strangers gather digitally
To raise money for charity.
No selfish gain;
A desire for change,
Blogs rise from nothing,
To spout poetry.
International friendship,
Searching for sponsorship.
Unusual [...]

What advice would you give to someone who wants to start engaging in BDSM?
Well, definitely don’t do what I did! I jumped in feet first without a safety net. It was reckless and dangerous and I could have wound up dead. Follow the boy scout motto: Be prepared

Have a safe call in place when [...]

It is in the touching of one with another that we become most fully ourselves.” -Marilyn Sewell
I believe that the human connection is a powerful healing tool, weapon, attention-seeker and the vein in which we strive to be all we can be. Touch is used to being about compassion, express anger, be intimate and sympathy.
We [...]

The main reason I’m trying to raise money for the Domestic Violence Project is because I know how hard it can be to distinguish abuse from a safe, consensual relationship. I’ve done my research and know that the line between pleasure and pain is not only blurred but can be diluted as well. In a [...]

Domestic Violence happens. It’s a sad fact of many relationships. The facts are devastating. This post will have some shocking stats but let’s put some real numbers to what we are talking about.
According the Silent Witness National Initiative:

About one third of female murder victims were killed by an intimate.
About 3% of male murder victims were [...]