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In kaya’s post about Stability in Dominants she brings up that she feels the Dominant in the relationship should be more stable than the submissive. The stability she lists are emotional, financial, career choice and mental. She also wanted to know if our standards for partners, especially Dominants, can be too high.
I’d like to say [...]

During our munch this past Saturday we talked about training; specifically about training a submissive undergoes. I used myself as example quite a bit because I know what I’ve been through to process the training I am constantly under. From the humble beginnings of please and thank yous to opening doors, the proper apology into [...]

It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

Tonight I am coloring my hair; at this very moment the creme is changing my hair from a dark brown to something auburn-ish. I haven’t colored my hair in over 4 years. I always had the perception that Master would want it natural. The fact that he went and helped me pick it out was [...]

Master’s Christmas Present

I gave Master his Christmas gift yesterday. He’s been waiting for months for me to finish them. They are a balanced set of suede floggers. I don’t think I’ve seen a happier Master. He’s been wanting to perfect Florentine flogging for quite some time, but without a balanced matching set he was [...]

Master and I are off balance. Lately we’ve been doing our own thing, freely snapping at each other and not very welcoming to D/s or even vanilla sexual advances. It could be all related to holiday stress, or financial strain. Master and I have stayed at our own computers and not really interacting more than, [...]

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This morning I got up to weigh feeling very hesitant to step on the scale. I’ve not been doing so well with my food intake at night and I’m also on my period so I knew I was bloated and the number was going to be off. I’m hoping that next week has a better [...]

This week we talked about whether BDSM can be considered a sexual orientation. Here’s what you said:
this girl says:
Hi Luna.
I think so. BDSM is about what turns us on, our wildest, darkest fantasies and desires and it crosses over with sex so much. I think its more appropriate to call it a sexual orientation than [...]

Reward this week if I reach 60 mins exercise: $5 towards new sofa/futon ($245 to go)
Monday 11-5

Calories: 1923
Water: 65 oz.
Exercise: 0 minutes

Today I was off balance emotionally. I felt like I couldn’t get enough done, even though I accomplished almost everything on my to do list. I didn’t eat a healthy dinner (I had 3 [...]

Master and I had some wonderful sex last night. I’d go into details, but it was sex people, come on. The BDSM stuff is to come this weekend when I don’t have to get up and go to work the next day. THAT I may share with you if Master allows it. I am very [...]

Master commented after my post a few days ago about the spanking we had, that he likes when I post about the play because I don’t generally talk about it with him. He gave a good analogy but right now I can’t seem to remember what it was. The gist was that if I don’t [...]

Master has noted that I’ve been off today, not quite myself but not bad either. I’ve not noticed a thing; perhaps it’s his Master ESP. The fact is I’ve been feeling just different than lately not because anything has or hasn’t happened but just cranking away at what hasn’t been done that I enjoy doing [...]

Gratitude. I see it in Gratitude Tuesdays on blogs all over the web. I see it in cards and stories this time of year. Sadly, I rarely see it throughout the year; some reason it’s only now, when it’s “scheduled” or “planned”. I’ve been reflecting lately on what I’m grateful for and how I can [...]

I can’t help but feel frustrated when Master looks at me with those lustful eyes and I sit here in pain and ache from my darn shoulder still acting up. He wants me, he wants me rough and wild and I can’t get my body to agree to that. I want him too, so very [...]

Dated 9-20-06
Dear Master,
This has been a very hard week. I don’t feel I’m living up to your expectations. I don’t feel like I’m working hard enough to fix the things that are wrong with me.
Blowjobs. Yes they are hard for me. They have always been that way. I have always thought of them as a [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

Have you felt illness or other factors (depression, stress, PMS, etc) interfere with your ability to serve as well as you want? How do you handle those times? from Kindlings
Right now I’m having a huge bout of PMS. Within that challenge are hormonal imbalances that cause me mental and emotional stress. I am grumpy, fatigued, [...]

We all know from hearing about professional dominatrix services that there are females in top and Domme positions. There are also a decent number of male submissives to balance the scale. It is stereotypical that submissives are women because of societal standards to keep women subservient to men.
And now, because I can’t think of anything [...]

It’s more than am I allowed to say no, I have a right to say no. I can say no at any time and stop whatever is happening. He also respects that there are times I just don’t feel like doing something and that also is reflected as a no.
Ultimately, a submissive has the power [...]