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Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

Yesterday was my one year anniversary of being collared. We hadn’t even noticed it until I saw the post in my memories sidebar area. I can’t believe a year has gone by. It feels like only a few months ago that he wrapped that piece of leather around my neck and I asked if I [...]

Is it more difficult to prove that someone has been the victim of abuse in a BDSM relationship than to prove that someone has been abused in a vanilla relationship and, if so, how does one go about proving the abuse?
It’s not really about proving abuse and more about substantiating if consent was given. [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

(A full, every extensive glossary on all things sexy and kinky can be found at The Iron Gate)
BDSM is a huge umbrella term for practically anything kinky. The acronym breaks down something like this:
B: Bondage- tying people up with rope, leather or steel. Also can be used mentally by just telling your partner not to [...]

Welcome to Exchange Edition #3, highlighting the most interesting, most controversial and smartest posts from the BDSM blogosphere - as nominated by the bloggers who wrote them. Not chosen by a committee, or pre-judged, these posts reflect each bloggers ‘pick’ of their own best work in the previous 2 weeks. It’s an easy way to [...]

Master and I have gone a long time between play sessions. Generally it’s because we can’t seem to be in the mood at the same time, can’t find the free time for each other or don’t want to put that much effort into it. It’s all excuses really. Well today was a day to try [...]

Gratitude. I see it in Gratitude Tuesdays on blogs all over the web. I see it in cards and stories this time of year. Sadly, I rarely see it throughout the year; some reason it’s only now, when it’s “scheduled” or “planned”. I’ve been reflecting lately on what I’m grateful for and how I can [...]

What, in your eyes, makes a person Dominant?
A Dominant carries specific qualities for me that express who he is to the submissive and to the community. These qualities are those that I look for in any person that says they are Dominant.
The first one of importance to me is self control. A Dominant shouldn’t upset [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

This is purely my opinion, and as it is my blog… well, you know the drill. Take what you want and leave the rest.
I belive that the most important aspect of BDSM is trust. In the beginning of a relationship one starts with nothing. You have to build all the aspects if you wish a [...]

How did you meet the person you serve?
I have had people all around asking me how I met Master. It’s a great story, and one I’d like to have written down somewhere anyhow, so why not now. It makes me smile just thinking of it.
I met Master in June of 2003 in an IRC chat [...]