BDSM is Love

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I’m not doing so well keeping up with my blogging rule. I know that it will end up in the punishment book to be atoned for on Sunday. I was supposed to write a letter to Master on Sunday and I didn’t blog yesterday either. Now I’m writing to kinda make up for yesterday even [...]

My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

Thank you so very much for all the wonderful comments on my last post about blow jobs. It has helped me immensely with my thinking process. Anyone who knows how to reprogram a behavior knows that the thought process comes first. I’m working right now on changing what I think of blow jobs, how I [...]

We got so busy yesterday with friends after work that I didn’t get to blog like I should, I’m making it up now!
Master and I have the same discussions over and over. They are always about my failings when it comes to the  sexual ballpark of blowjobs.  You hear it on this blog all the [...]

Hardcore Romance asked a few questions of his readers and I’m willing to respond to them here in my blog.
What do you get out of bondage?
I get many things out of bondage. I feel secure or helpless. I love the feeling of tightness, the ache of muscles, the lovely marks. I get all floaty [...]

In this lifestyle theres one thing that is very common. That would be training. Everything from slave positions, behavior, to butt plug training, so i wanted to give you some great sites to look at and explore some great training.
Slave Positions: a good slave will take the time to learn all the slave positions. I [...]

It is in the touching of one with another that we become most fully ourselves.” -Marilyn Sewell
I believe that the human connection is a powerful healing tool, weapon, attention-seeker and the vein in which we strive to be all we can be. Touch is used to being about compassion, express anger, be intimate and sympathy.
We [...]

Dear Master,
We have had a wonderful weekend! I think that with all the sluttiness that I’ve exuded from all my pores that you are one content Master, am I right? Great thing is you have more planned when I have recuperated. It’s so great to feel free and expressive. I’ve a little [...]

So, you’ve happened upon this blog and it looks interesting, it has a large archive you can’t even imagine combing through but you wonder who in the world this luna is, right?
You’ve come to the right place, because I am she. I’m now almost 30, living in my first real D/s relationship. I’m learning and [...]

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I hope everyone’s Thanksgiving went well. Master and I spent a nice day at home with no work, no stress (other than my usual cooking stress) and it was great. It would have been better had my pussy not still been sore from 3 days ago when Master and I went all out with so [...]

Master and I have been discussing my diet lately. Well, it’s more like I’ve been discussing it with him. You see that this summer I’ve plateaued and been stuck just above 300 for 4 months now. It’s very agrivating and I’d like to get going again. I know that most of it is loss of [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

Chained to your mercy
I beg to hold me tighter
Wrapped in your embrace
Let’s pull an all-nighter.
Our love is bound by joy,
compassion and commitment
Roles solidified in power exchange
A collar the sole adornment.
The connection of a girl to her Master
is more about worship than love
Yet love is the basis for her trust
She gives all she has to be [...]

Master and I had a very good discussion last night after a moment of confusion. It has me wondering if I’m the only person in the world that has this issue, even thought I know it can’t be.
Master has ordered me to do sexual favors for him. It’s not uncommon in D/s relationships that I [...]

I need a little time to myself. I guess what I mean is I need a little time devoted to me. I’ve spent 5 days of my spring break just hanging around watching Master work and doing some work of my own. I’m ready for some whip me, spank me, hold me, sex me time. [...]

Master started that question as I sit here staring at a blank page, whinning about not having anything to say. “When you are hungry and you don’t know what to eat, do you then go on not eating indefinitely?” And so I sit here… because even though I don’t have anything to say, I will [...]

This may seem cheesy to some of you, but the hand is an awesome BDSM toy. It can do many many things that another toy just can’t do. Besides sexually tease your partner it is an excellent spanking tool *grin* and the tactile contact of the partner to the bottom is very emotional and draws [...]

This one is a common misconception from those that don’t know about BDSM. Sex is not always a given in BDSM play. Although there are those that feel that sex has it’s part in a scene, not all players engage in sexual contact when they play.
So you ask, could I have play sessions without sex? [...]

More on Aftercare, becuase I personally find it very important to a scene.
Within aftercare the two people recover physically and mentally from the events. A scene is very powerful and can be intense. Recovery from this can include applying lotion to the sore areas, taking a bath or shower, holding each other, cuddling, sex (if [...]