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Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
What was your [...]

It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

I’ve not been feeling quite myself lately. I went to bed at 7pm last night, without dinner and slept albeit fitfully for the entire night. I’ve been having problems sleeping I’ve noticed but can’t pin down a source to my frequent waking at night. It’s never enough for me to get out of bed [...]

Thank you everyone who commented on the Thursday Question about experience. It’s a challenging topic, to say the least.
Determining experience is a tricky for anyone. There are a lot of variables in deciding if you are experienced or not. I could say that I’m experienced in that I’ve been living in a D/s relationship [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

This Week’s Picks
A Fable
“They start touching her, gingerly at first, wondering what magic is in her.”
Fiction: The Island Princess and the Monkeys Who Tie Knots
“You naughty, naughty, NAUGHTY monkeys!”
Sexy Is In Your Mind
“Sexy is an attitude and really all in your mind.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Chickipedia
Editor’s Choice
Take a walk on the wild side.
More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm
See also: [...]

The goals of any submissive are as varied as the relationship as to which they tend. I’ve been given the task of naming the goals I currently have within my submission and then explain how I plan on working towards them. A daunting task indeed! I’ve really not given it much thought honestly before now [...]

I can with all confidence say that I am submissive. I may have lost my way for awhile and it did affect our relationship severely. You ask me again what makes me submissive and I really can’t find anything more to add to what I have already said once before. To reiterate them here; my [...]

Each relationship that we pursue is going to be unique and different. We can not compare one person’s dynamic with another’s even if we can agree that it is under the term of BDSM that we hold this relationship. In a recent comment on the post Speech Training there came up a need for me [...]

Master and I are off balance. Lately we’ve been doing our own thing, freely snapping at each other and not very welcoming to D/s or even vanilla sexual advances. It could be all related to holiday stress, or financial strain. Master and I have stayed at our own computers and not really interacting more than, [...]

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My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

Yesterday I posted a question about ‘true’-ness.
Is there such a thing as a “true” slave/submissive?
No one left any comments, perhaps we are just not willing to question?
luna says:
I don’t believe there is such a thing. I do think that people confuse the terms true and natural. I do know that there is natural submission and [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan
I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
How do you feel about the idea of ‘breaking a slave’?
For me, the idea of breaking a slave goes against the natural progression of a submissive/slave. I perceive it as a forced breakdown of someone’s own will, their own attitude and sometimes their own thought process.
What generally results is a blank canvas [...]

Hardcore Romance asked the following questions on his blog and it made me really try to discern the difference for myself.
Do you like being a good girl or do you like being called a good girl?
Do you like being a bad girl and getting a spanking in order to make you a good girl?
I love [...]

Swiped from All Things Spanking : The idea is to copy and paste to your own blog, and bold the things you have done.
01. Bought everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swam with wild dolphins
03. Climbed a mountain
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid
06. Held a tarantula
07. Taken a [...]

Thank you so very much for all the wonderful comments on my last post about blow jobs. It has helped me immensely with my thinking process. Anyone who knows how to reprogram a behavior knows that the thought process comes first. I’m working right now on changing what I think of blow jobs, how I [...]

I have a writing assignment that actually was supposed to be done during my vacation week but it slipped my mind and now I’m working on it. Well, I’m thinking about it. I’m not really sure what I should say exactly. I have so many ideas swimming in my head but something is holding me [...]

I’m back to work today. I’m fighting the desire to sleep since I messed with my sleep cycle during vacation. I’m wearing the butt plug for training, I have the nipple clamps to endure as well. I do this so that Master is appeased and so that I can learn to get used to what [...]