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I’m not doing so well keeping up with my blogging rule. I know that it will end up in the punishment book to be atoned for on Sunday. I was supposed to write a letter to Master on Sunday and I didn’t blog yesterday either. Now I’m writing to kinda make up for yesterday even [...]

I’ve not been feeling quite myself lately. I went to bed at 7pm last night, without dinner and slept albeit fitfully for the entire night. I’ve been having problems sleeping I’ve noticed but can’t pin down a source to my frequent waking at night. It’s never enough for me to get out of bed [...]

Saying no. This is a difficult essay for me. I assume you wanted me to write about when I say no to sexual things. A lot of the time when I say no, it has reason behind it. The rest of the time, I realize it is excuses. How I feel about saying no is [...]

How should I behave when being punished and why my current behavior is inappropriate.
Punishment behavior is something I think is a learned behavior. As a child, you learn to cry and scream and pout, whine and all over be a terror whenever you are punished. At least that was how it was with me. I [...]

danae asks: Name a couple guilty pleasures?
Chocolate Milk and Friday afternoon naps
Is there something you had before your life with your Sir that you don’t now but that you miss?
Yeah, I miss fast food. I have such huge cravings for Big Macs and shakes sometimes that it takes all my willpower to not get into [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

I’m home from work today. I live 30 miles away from work. I have a really low tolerance of dangerous driving conditions and with the ice and snow that is in the area I just didn’t feel comfortable driving in it. My boss did a very good job making me feel guilty and trying to [...]

“‘Twas the Night Before Christmas” by Unknown (kinky)
‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even my spouse;
The paddles were hung in the cupboard with care,
In hopes that her bottom soon would be bare;
The children were nestled at grandma’s in bed,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And [...]

I just did one of the hardest things I think I’ve had to do so far in my submissive life. I went to Master and told him that I’ve been slacking on my rules and felt that I should be punished. Yesterday was my shaving day and instead of shaving it all off (save my [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

Tonight is the night I get my punishment for breaking rules. I’m not looking forward to it but the wait has done it’s job mightily. I am reminded of what is to come every single time I drive by a fast food place. No way will I do this again. It’s not worth the disappointment [...]

Dear Master,
I was looking forward to the sensual blow job planned for today until I forgot about it. Now that you are expecting it I feel obligated to do it no matter what. I don’t expect to know is why I forgot, just that I did. Boy do I feel guilty. We’ve had so much [...]

You’d think that with all the wonderful things in my life that I’d be looking forward to Christmas and the joy it brings, the unity of family and the wonders of the season. However, when I think of Christmas it’s depressing, lonely and sad. Perhaps it’s because we are staying at home this year, or [...]

Saying no. This is a difficult essay for me. I assume you wanted me to write about when I say no to sexual things. A lot of the time when I say no, it has reason behind it. The rest of the time, I realize it is excuses. How I feel about saying no is [...]

Thinking about how hard it is for me to find out why I changed so suddenly. I know that I hold my guilt a lot longer than most people do. I may have been forgiven for something but I don’t forgive myself as easily. I felt so guilty about my issue this summer that I [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

I would have been instructed to write in my blog yesterday had the interenet been available. It is finally up today and so I am backposting this entry that I handwrote yesterday. Thank you to everyone that is sending me support and kind words in this. It truely does help me stay focused and know [...]

I find myself just beginning the sentence that is my punishemtn for wrongdoing. I am miserable and bored. Hours have passed slowly as I contemplate my rebirth. There has to be a rebirth after a wrong so severly recognized as this. The effects on Master and our relationship are huge.
I have to start at square [...]