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My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan
I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours.” -Robert Browning
What does it mean to you to be “someone’s”?
I love this quote and when I put it in the prompts I knew I wanted to talk about how it strikes me and places me in my happy [...]

This week we talked about that pivotal moment when you knew that the lifestyle was for you. To review, the question was:
Every single one of us is in a different place on our journey. Let’s go back to that epiphany moment. How did you know you were suited for this lifestyle? What happened at that [...]

So, you probably wonder where I was yesterday since if you know my schedule I should have blogged yesterday. Well, I was in bed, sick. I’ve had whatever crud has been going around. Master only got touched by it, but it laid me flat yesterday. Whatever it is, I’m not 100% yet which is a [...]

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In two weeks I will be 30. I’m not sure how I think about this. I do know that I think about it often. It’s a milestone in my life and I don’t even know if I’ve really gotten far from my last milestone of 21. Sure I’ve traveled this journey and taken a few [...]

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I have my first paid vacation starting now with my job. I have a list of things I want to do for the break and know that I don’t think I’ll get through them all; I will try. I’d love to have been able to go somewhere sandy, with oceans and sun. Instead I’m home; [...]

by Raven Shadowborne
This is a topic that comes up very often in discussing BDSM. It is guaranteed to cause some very emotional responses. Many try to link a submissive personality to past child abuse. Saying that a submissive personality is a psychological remnant of the past abuse. Some try to say that BDSM is just [...]

The second essay that Norische has on the subject of dangerous situation is titled, Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves
She lists and gives descriptions of submissives that may pose a problem to unsuspecting dominants. Of these she lists:

Cyber slave/sub.
The Professional Victim slave/sub.
The Show Piece [...]

Norische has a couple essays that deal with warning signs of dangerous situations and people. This first one is titled: Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants
She gives a few key things to look out for in Dominants that are bad news.

If someone submits to you [...]

Master and I mistakenly went to Barnes and Noble last night about 8pm. The mass of wizard dressed folk there waiting for the release of HP #7 was oppressive. We walked around a little bit; got a couple of books and then exited swiftly. I really wanted to spend some time there. I love the [...]

Dear Master,
I am constantly amazed by you. You are my world and my only love. I feel so good in your gaze, your casual touch, the way you shiver when I touch you. I fall in love with you over and over again; each and every moment.
I’m really needing to work hard on my diet [...]

Master has this very adorable behavior that I just have to smile about. When Master is feeling all lovable and wants to give me attention without actually giving me attention he will wink at me. It’s one of those “I’m thinking of you baby, just thought you should know” kind of winks. I love it. [...]

So, you’ve happened upon this blog and it looks interesting, it has a large archive you can’t even imagine combing through but you wonder who in the world this luna is, right?
You’ve come to the right place, because I am she. I’m now almost 30, living in my first real D/s relationship. I’m learning and [...]

Master and I went to a play party yesterday. The exciting thing for me is that Master wanted to bring toys. We have never played in front of people and he has said he had to be very comfortable before he would do that. I was super happy when he pulled out the toys to [...]

I can’t help but feel frustrated when Master looks at me with those lustful eyes and I sit here in pain and ache from my darn shoulder still acting up. He wants me, he wants me rough and wild and I can’t get my body to agree to that. I want him too, so very [...]

It happened yet again. I can’t even remember all of the heated discussion however I can remember the spark that set it all off.
Wednesday I asked Master to help me with a bit of code that I didn’t know how to do. I had gone online and someone had offered their script for it but [...]

Dated 9-17-06
Dear Master,
I’m slowly learning a lot about myself and the trigger for my current mood. I strongly believe it stems from my punishment and my disregard for my own self. When I scratched myself I can remember thinking that I wanted to hurt and make you hurt also. I abandoned who I was [...]