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Recently in a forum I read about someone who was just starting a D/s relationship and was bringing someone into the home. The dominant stated that she wanted ideas of how to tell her 9 year old daughter about what she might be seeing and the behaviors that the slave she was bringing in would [...]

Everyone is doing it so I thought I would too!
This month you can ask me any question you’d like and I’ll answer it in a post during this month. No limits here, ask whatever you’d like!
Ask your question on this post
–luna

I have to say thank you to everyone who answered the Thursday Question this week about activities that give you pause. It was a tough one.
Activities that we engage in in BDSM are completely personal decisions and I feel that as long as everyone participating is aware of the risks and dangers then the choice [...]

Tonight I am coloring my hair; at this very moment the creme is changing my hair from a dark brown to something auburn-ish. I haven’t colored my hair in over 4 years. I always had the perception that Master would want it natural. The fact that he went and helped me pick it out was [...]

Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
Don Cambion
catalina loves her collar
The Spanking Writers
Thursday’s Child
trinity-pup
No Limits
Dancing with the [...]

Each relationship that we pursue is going to be unique and different. We can not compare one person’s dynamic with another’s even if we can agree that it is under the term of BDSM that we hold this relationship. In a recent comment on the post Speech Training there came up a need for me [...]

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
Do you require a [...]

This week we talked about Fear Play and how it enhances your play. Come see what people had to say.
Do you participate in Fear Play with your partner? What is a reoccurring fear that is enhanced in your play?
Sarah says:
Sensory deprivation was my first bottoming experience, and I love it to this day. Hell, [...]

What sexual behavior won’t you do or would do only under certain conditions? Write about those to clarify your boundaries.
This week we talked about sexual limits to your relationship. Here’s what people had to say:
Mara Tudor says:
I am not crazy about anal [...]

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
What sexual behavior won’t [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
How do you feel about the idea of ‘breaking a slave’?
For me, the idea of breaking a slave goes against the natural progression of a submissive/slave. I perceive it as a forced breakdown of someone’s own will, their own attitude and sometimes their own thought process.
What generally results is a blank canvas [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours.” -Robert Browning
What does it mean to you to be “someone’s”?
I love this quote and when I put it in the prompts I knew I wanted to talk about how it strikes me and places me in my happy [...]

The nipple clamp training is going nowhere. I can’t get past 5 minutes. Master tried to lift the ring in the middle today and I about panicked. This isn’t fair. I want to please him and I want to be able to take more pain, especially in the nipples where he seems to get the [...]

Nipple clamps. Something in everyone’s toybag, right? An item that a lot of people can’t life without. Others have a love/hate relationship with them. I on the other hand am terrified of them. I have never ever been able to go long with them on; I end up screaming in a panic when the pain [...]

When I was just getting started in BDSM, I didn’t know a lot about safety. I didn’t screen possible play partners and I rarely set up safe calls. I blame it on ignorance or naiveness.
I went off alone late at night for what turned out to really be a booty call. I didn’t know [...]

The key difference between S&M and Abuse, is “consent”.
Consent = Is an agreed approval of what is done and/or proposed by another.
Abuse = to use so as to injure or damage: MALTREAT
SM is

Is based on the safe, sane, consensual theory
SM is a controlled environment
SM has safe words to stop the scene
In a [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

The main reason I’m trying to raise money for the Domestic Violence Project is because I know how hard it can be to distinguish abuse from a safe, consensual relationship. I’ve done my research and know that the line between pleasure and pain is not only blurred but can be diluted as well. In a [...]

(A full, every extensive glossary on all things sexy and kinky can be found at The Iron Gate)
BDSM is a huge umbrella term for practically anything kinky. The acronym breaks down something like this:
B: Bondage- tying people up with rope, leather or steel. Also can be used mentally by just telling your partner not to [...]

My boss called me up this morning and asked if he could come by. I said sure, I didn’t have any fear of anything wrong, and who would say no to your boss? Well he did my annual review. I did exceptionally well for only being with the company for 7 months (annual reviews [...]