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Master and I have gone a long time between play sessions. Generally it’s because we can’t seem to be in the mood at the same time, can’t find the free time for each other or don’t want to put that much effort into it. It’s all excuses really. Well today was a day to try [...]

What, in your eyes, makes a person submissive?
A submissive is a man or woman that for whatever reason chooses to follow the directions, adjust to behavior modifications and submit to the power of another. These things can include but are not limited to sexual submission, domestic service, platonic recession of power, work environment with a [...]

Continuing more on my code of ethics I’ve come to realize that there are submissive code of ethics out there on the net that seem all and good, but not very personal. A common one I see passed around is:
1. I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that [...]

I'm hopeful that we will get to play tomorrow. Master stated last night that it depends on my mood today, whatever that means. I'm going to work hard to stay happy and attentive and loving to him all day. I want and need to play so badly. I want to show him that I will [...]

Tonight is the first D/s forum for my local group since the summer break. I coordinate these on a monthly basis and love doing them. Dominants and submissives get together with each other to talk about issues in the lifestyle, from basics to more complex issues. Today for the submissives, it’s a basic topic: Limits, [...]

It’s more than am I allowed to say no, I have a right to say no. I can say no at any time and stop whatever is happening. He also respects that there are times I just don’t feel like doing something and that also is reflected as a no.
Ultimately, a submissive has the power [...]

I have only topped someone twice in my experience. They were gifts from my Dominant parter for being so good. I’m not really allowed to go into what he allowed me to do, that is off limits conversation but I can say that I had a great time and I know that I would [...]

A scene is a BDSM playtime and can involve one or many different activities. For those vanilla (non-BDSM) folk out there it would be equivalent to setting up a romantic night with your lover. You set up candles and fresh sheets maybe, you know what you want to wear and hopefully what you want to [...]

As mentioned in the previous post, a part of consensuality is the use of safewords to protect the participants from going to far and maintaining limits pre-established. They are key to safe sexual activities within the community. A safeword can be used to stop what’s happening with a pre-negociated word or gesture by either party.
Safewords [...]

SSC is the mantra that a large portion of the BDSM community live by. It outlines the idea of safety and care for the individual. This is what makes us so different than abusers.
S- Safe. The activities that we participate in should be safe. Each person must be knowledgeable about the activities and aware of [...]

I’m sure a lot of you are wondering with the NCSF is and why I have chosen them as my charity. Others of you know me well enough to know why. These posts today will be the basics of what I know and the myths of BDSM that exist and are prevailant within and outside [...]