BDSM is Love

We had a very stressful talk last night. It involved what happens in scenes with us because almost 50% of them end sooner than one of us would like them to. We have crashed really hard when this happens. The issue has two parts. For the longest time I just attributed it to being new [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

There are tasks I just really don’t like. When Master assigns them but doesn’t give a time frame for completion they sit… and sit… and sit. I can’t wrap my head around the truth of the matter. Master requested that I do something for his pleasure, not mine. This is becoming the case with the [...]

Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
Easily Aroused
100% Genuine Artificial Vanilla Extract
Sweat Shop Sissy
Sugarbutch Chronicles
Linda Sue’s Diary
Indiscretion
Descent
Full [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

It feels good to see Master getting his thoughts sorted out and that he has honored me by posting here. I’m so proud that he has claimed me and is helping me become who I’ve always wanted to be; comfortable in myself.
My exercise routine has just started but knowing that if I don’t exercise everyday [...]

There are several aspects of appearance that I need to be aware of for Master. These are physical appearance, dress and health. Within each of these requirements I need to do certain things to appease him. I am fighting with the way I was raised, and they laziness I fell into when I got married. [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

You all know the old adage “If you play with fire you’re going to get burned”. Well, as it turns out, this is entirely true.
For all of you who may be freaking out right now, no, I didn’t burn luna. I recently put all of my toy collection away in a nice bag and toolbox [...]

I complain… a lot. Every time something is suggested or commanded I have to come back with a why, or I don’t feel like it or other some such reason. I’m sure for me that complaining is an active part of my everyday life. It’s an attempt at control. I don’t like the request or [...]

Manners is something that good parents are supposed to instill in their children. Each family believes in and teaches different manner rules. I grew up in a household that really didn’t empahsize manners at all. How sad and depressing, right? Well, now I have my chance to polish up what I knew and learn (re-learn) [...]

Well, it’s official. Master is registered for ShibariCon 2008 and I will be by the end of the month! Then we have the train ticket to get and we can save money for the hotel and other entertainment! Oh god I’m so excited.
I’ve gotten to really love rope, and I know that I will enjoy [...]

I’ve had to learn a lot about courtesy and respect since I met Master. I am ashamed to admit that my family was rude, obnoxious and crude. I picked it up and didn’t bat an eyelash when I treated people poorly. I was described by my best friend as being harsh and without tact. I [...]

Thank you for all the comments on the Thursday Question regarding restraints. They were fabulous to read!
I am a rope slut. I love the feel of rope binding me and restricting my movements. As soon as the rope touches my skin I get a sense of floating and happiness that I don’t get with any [...]

Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
Don Cambion
catalina loves her collar
The Spanking Writers
Thursday’s Child
trinity-pup
No Limits
Dancing with the [...]

If you haven’t seen it yet I strongly suggest you go watch Monk’s new video blog posts on YouTube. It’s a performance bondage mummification suspension piece he did awhile back and it’s so awesome! I can’t wait till I can be suspended and tied up like that! It’s only a matter of time.
Part 1
Part 2 [...]

Master has been practicing with his new matching set of floggers I made him for Christmas. The first time he used them on me was this last weekend at a play party. He told everyone that this was just practice and not a full fledged scene and that he wasn’t that good at it.
He started [...]

What can a Dom do to show control over a submissive whether they are live in or not? These ideas have to be keeping in mind that the submissive has to work and be visible in public. They also have to keep in mind male and female submissives.
My mind went nuts over each individual activity [...]