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Etiquette is a code of behavior or a set of social rules that govern what we do. Within a BDSM context there are a lot more defined rules than in other settings or situations. I think a lot of what we do is with a set of rules. They are either posted or implied but [...]

Orgasm denial and control is a well documented activity online; you can find all sorts of thoughts and opinions, how-tos and what nots from anyone and everyone under the sun. I’m not intending to add any more new ideas to this topic. Here are, in my opinion, a couple of the better written essays out [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

Manners is something that good parents are supposed to instill in their children. Each family believes in and teaches different manner rules. I grew up in a household that really didn’t empahsize manners at all. How sad and depressing, right? Well, now I have my chance to polish up what I knew and learn (re-learn) [...]

I’ve had to learn a lot about courtesy and respect since I met Master. I am ashamed to admit that my family was rude, obnoxious and crude. I picked it up and didn’t bat an eyelash when I treated people poorly. I was described by my best friend as being harsh and without tact. I [...]

Today it is all about my attitude. Not that I’m a smart mouth and need it slapped clear off my face, but that I’m very negative. Master has always seen that in me and so have many of the readers of my blog. I don’t want to be negative and can’t really understand why I’m [...]

Master has been practicing with his new matching set of floggers I made him for Christmas. The first time he used them on me was this last weekend at a play party. He told everyone that this was just practice and not a full fledged scene and that he wasn’t that good at it.
He started [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]

This week we talked about Fear Play and how it enhances your play. Come see what people had to say.
Do you participate in Fear Play with your partner? What is a reoccurring fear that is enhanced in your play?
Sarah says:
Sensory deprivation was my first bottoming experience, and I love it to this day. Hell, [...]

My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan
I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
List 5 things that you are grateful for in your life.
1. I’m grateful for my ability to change. Without the desire to make my life better and more fulfilling I would be stuck working at a dead end job with no happiness in my life. Since I’ve been able to change my [...]

This week we talked about that pivotal moment when you knew that the lifestyle was for you. To review, the question was:
Every single one of us is in a different place on our journey. Let’s go back to that epiphany moment. How did you know you were suited for this lifestyle? What happened at that [...]

kiana made a good point in a comment on my last post. I’m not very positive thinking. I’ve heard it before, on this blog and in person and it comes as no surprise. I’ve always been pessimistic about everything. It causes me to worry about anything, to assume the worst in events and people and [...]

When I was just getting started in BDSM, I didn’t know a lot about safety. I didn’t screen possible play partners and I rarely set up safe calls. I blame it on ignorance or naiveness.
I went off alone late at night for what turned out to really be a booty call. I didn’t know [...]

I guess we all have our favorite BDSM websites we can’t live without. Here are a few of mine.
Personal Resource Sites:
Sir Knight’s Realm  ohhhhh yeah my bad thats mine and Sir Knight’s website.
The Iron Gate is one of the best BDSM resource sites i’ve ever come across. Luna has put her blood, sweat and tears [...]

What advice would you give to someone who wants to start engaging in BDSM?
Well, definitely don’t do what I did! I jumped in feet first without a safety net. It was reckless and dangerous and I could have wound up dead. Follow the boy scout motto: Be prepared

Have a safe call in place when [...]

Alright folks, the time is now to think about sponsoring this blog in an effort to raise awareness and fight Domestic Violence in BDSM relationships. This year I am blogging in the Blogathon for the National Leather Association-International Domestic Violence Project. The Blogathon is July 28th from 8am CST to July 29th 8am CST. I [...]

So, you’ve happened upon this blog and it looks interesting, it has a large archive you can’t even imagine combing through but you wonder who in the world this luna is, right?
You’ve come to the right place, because I am she. I’m now almost 30, living in my first real D/s relationship. I’m learning and [...]

Master and I went to a play party yesterday. The exciting thing for me is that Master wanted to bring toys. We have never played in front of people and he has said he had to be very comfortable before he would do that. I was super happy when he pulled out the toys to [...]