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Being that I’m a masochist, I love pain. I’ve never really thought about it or analyzed what that means really, but reading other people’s blogs has always helped me see that saying I’m masochist is just another huge personal term in BDSM as a whole. So, to think it though, this is what being a [...]

I’m not doing so well keeping up with my blogging rule. I know that it will end up in the punishment book to be atoned for on Sunday. I was supposed to write a letter to Master on Sunday and I didn’t blog yesterday either. Now I’m writing to kinda make up for yesterday even [...]

Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

Sometimes when you are itching for some play it’s a very specific type of play that you want. In our relationship I’m free to ask for what I want, but Master does not have to comply. Today I asked Master for some helpless fuck whore time. I wanted to be bound so that I couldn’t [...]

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I. Mental Growth
VI. Behavior

II. Protocol
VII. Domestication

III. Physical Appearance
VIII. Creativity

IV. Sexual Training

IX. Ritual and Symbolism

V. Self Discipline
X. In the Dungeon

I. Mental Growth
Developing and maintaining the submissive mindset

Defining Myself Submissive
Discipline and Punishment
Give and Receive
Positive Attitude
Submissive Goals
Submissive Qualities
Submissive Triggers

II. Protocol
Master has very specific requirements for my manners [...]

There is nothing more powerful than sex after a draught. In this case a draught caused by dear Red Plague. Last night Master and I had some of the most mind blowing sex we’ve had in a long time, and that’s really saying something because we rarely have anything less than great sex. We [...]

Master had me take a sleeping pill last night to help me sleep. I didn’t stay asleep as I had hoped but I think the sleep I did get was more restful. I don’t feel as tired today. Thank God.
Master and I have started a bit of a sexual banter with each other. This is [...]

Thank you everyone who commented on the Thursday Question about experience. It’s a challenging topic, to say the least.
Determining experience is a tricky for anyone. There are a lot of variables in deciding if you are experienced or not. I could say that I’m experienced in that I’ve been living in a D/s relationship [...]

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
We’ve all had quickies [...]

Ok, so I don’t know what to write about so Master comments, “How about that you aren’t exercising like you’re supposed to and you’ll get caned like last week.”
Uh-huh.
I’m being bad. I hate caning and yet it’s not keeping from not doing the exercise. Anyone want to know why? Do I think that pain [...]

We had a very stressful talk last night. It involved what happens in scenes with us because almost 50% of them end sooner than one of us would like them to. We have crashed really hard when this happens. The issue has two parts. For the longest time I just attributed it to being new [...]

Mara asks: What is Master’s biggest “fetish” with you? (i.e. with my Master it’s bondage and barefeet… he likes to tie me up, and have me be barefooted or at least see my feet)
Master’s biggest fetish is tight painful breast bondage. He loves shinju, squeezing my tits till the feel like they are going to [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

There are tasks I just really don’t like. When Master assigns them but doesn’t give a time frame for completion they sit… and sit… and sit. I can’t wrap my head around the truth of the matter. Master requested that I do something for his pleasure, not mine. This is becoming the case with the [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

Well, so no one commented on the Thursday Question this week about when you came out as kinky… does that mean no one is out? to anyone? No one wants to admit that they aren’t or are? Hmmm….
I’m out as kinky to all of my friends, half of my family and select few at work.
As [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

Thank you so much for all the wonderful comments and thoughts on Soul Mates in my Thursday Question this week. I loved reading each and every one!
My idea of soul mates really did come from fantasy romance novels as a teenager. I loved the idea of a man to come sweep me off my feet [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]