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Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
Looking to the future, [...]

Snagged from Journey to the Darkside
The first time I heard about sex, I thought it was…the coolest thing ever! From when I was 5 I tried to get more information, I experimented with the neighbor across the street (we didn’t know he had to have a hard dick to make it work). Uh-huh.
My [...]

I hate bad news, but I’ve got some sitting in my back pocket that I’ve postponed sharing with you all. Master and I will not be going to Shibaricon. We just couldn’t come up with all the funds we need. I’m still down about and hopefully we can start saving early to attend next year. [...]

Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

I have a headache, which means that this post will either be rambling or so full of thought that you wouldn’t believe I had a headache. Either way I’m sure it will be enjoyable. Come along for the ride.
I’ve been doing a lot of reevaluating my life lately. How I wonder if I’m working the [...]

Orgasm denial and control is a well documented activity online; you can find all sorts of thoughts and opinions, how-tos and what nots from anyone and everyone under the sun. I’m not intending to add any more new ideas to this topic. Here are, in my opinion, a couple of the better written essays out [...]

Thank you everyone who commented on the Thursday Question about experience. It’s a challenging topic, to say the least.
Determining experience is a tricky for anyone. There are a lot of variables in deciding if you are experienced or not. I could say that I’m experienced in that I’ve been living in a D/s relationship [...]

Saying no. This is a difficult essay for me. I assume you wanted me to write about when I say no to sexual things. A lot of the time when I say no, it has reason behind it. The rest of the time, I realize it is excuses. How I feel about saying no is [...]

We had a very stressful talk last night. It involved what happens in scenes with us because almost 50% of them end sooner than one of us would like them to. We have crashed really hard when this happens. The issue has two parts. For the longest time I just attributed it to being new [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

I’ve been sick the past few days, some sort of stomach bug I can’t complain. It came on all of a sudden on Tuesday and I’ve had that icky feeling the past few days. I’m going to have to go to work tomorrow because I just can’t miss another day. I’ll feel so far behind.
I [...]

Tonight I am coloring my hair; at this very moment the creme is changing my hair from a dark brown to something auburn-ish. I haven’t colored my hair in over 4 years. I always had the perception that Master would want it natural. The fact that he went and helped me pick it out was [...]

Thank you so much for all the wonderful comments and thoughts on Soul Mates in my Thursday Question this week. I loved reading each and every one!
My idea of soul mates really did come from fantasy romance novels as a teenager. I loved the idea of a man to come sweep me off my feet [...]

Well, it’s official. Master is registered for ShibariCon 2008 and I will be by the end of the month! Then we have the train ticket to get and we can save money for the hotel and other entertainment! Oh god I’m so excited.
I’ve gotten to really love rope, and I know that I will enjoy [...]

I’ve had to learn a lot about courtesy and respect since I met Master. I am ashamed to admit that my family was rude, obnoxious and crude. I picked it up and didn’t bat an eyelash when I treated people poorly. I was described by my best friend as being harsh and without tact. I [...]

As we both already know, I am not naturally submissive. I don’t have the need to serve and please everyone all the time and worst of all I don’t stay in the right mindset to please you all the time either. It’s a balancing act of love and trust and desire for you that brings [...]

Yesterday was my one year anniversary of being collared. We hadn’t even noticed it until I saw the post in my memories sidebar area. I can’t believe a year has gone by. It feels like only a few months ago that he wrapped that piece of leather around my neck and I asked if I [...]

Today it is all about my attitude. Not that I’m a smart mouth and need it slapped clear off my face, but that I’m very negative. Master has always seen that in me and so have many of the readers of my blog. I don’t want to be negative and can’t really understand why I’m [...]

I’ve come to the understanding that I am a blog addict. Master mentions all the time that I am constantly reading blogs. With ease I have them all in my RSS reader so that I don’t have to click the 50+ links on my sidebar everyday. The new information comes to me. Now most of [...]