BDSM is Love

Ann asks: i was asked recently to list ways i enjoy giving service to my master and i listed many things i know he likes but i struggled with my “own” things i enjoy doing for him, partly because i just enjoy bringing him pleasure it really isnt what i do it’s the fact he [...]

In a recent thread on a forum I came across the word Celebrity Service as a form of service that you can classify as treating your owner as a celebrity in your service to them. Things such as opening doors, caufferring, ordering their food and handling service personnel all fall under this umbrella. Now I’ve [...]

“Master can we have spanking sex tonight?” I question. It’s what I call it when we blend pain and sex. Generally they go together but I wanted a bit more pain than usual so that’s how I ask for it.
“I’m sure we can manage something,” he replies with a wicked grin.
The preliminaries are hotter than [...]

Master has a beautiful cock. I love just looking at it. He is generally okay with my analysis when I like to stroke the veins, play with the triangular patch of skin of his ball sack until it wrinkles and I love watching it grow and move. I could spend hours transfixed at his crotch [...]

Serving to serve is one form of service I provide my Master. Somehow I’ve compartmentalized it from service for pleasure. It could just be my way of providing more service to him in different ways.
An example of service to serve is when I’m not in the mood for a blow job but I know he [...]

Being that I’m a masochist, I love pain. I’ve never really thought about it or analyzed what that means really, but reading other people’s blogs has always helped me see that saying I’m masochist is just another huge personal term in BDSM as a whole. So, to think it though, this is what being a [...]

The wildest sexual aid I have ever used was…a curling iron; it was also my first.
The most pleasure I have ever had with a foreign object was…um, can it also be that curling iron? Err, have I told you about the colored pencils? No?
The last sexual request I refused was…I didn’t really refuse it, I [...]

Dear Master,
This weekend was certainly full of a lot of fun! I had a great time at the munch and party. I hope that we will be able to play at parties in the future. I know I get floaty but there has to be a counter to it so that we can travel sooner. [...]

Thank you to everyone who participated in this week’s Thursday Question!
Marks have always been a wonderful thing for me. When I first started out they were like notches in the bedpost about what I’ve tried and haven’t tried. I could itemize them in my head; that was the crop, that was the paddle, that was [...]

There is nothing more powerful than sex after a draught. In this case a draught caused by dear Red Plague. Last night Master and I had some of the most mind blowing sex we’ve had in a long time, and that’s really saying something because we rarely have anything less than great sex. We [...]

domestic -

of or pertaining to the home, the household, household affairs, or the family: domestic pleasures.
devoted to home life or household affairs.

We all have a home to live in; be it an apartment, house, mobile home, condo or mansion. We all have to do some housework to maintain that home. I admit that I do [...]

Orgasm denial and control is a well documented activity online; you can find all sorts of thoughts and opinions, how-tos and what nots from anyone and everyone under the sun. I’m not intending to add any more new ideas to this topic. Here are, in my opinion, a couple of the better written essays out [...]

Thank you everyone who commented on the Thursday Question about experience. It’s a challenging topic, to say the least.
Determining experience is a tricky for anyone. There are a lot of variables in deciding if you are experienced or not. I could say that I’m experienced in that I’ve been living in a D/s relationship [...]

danae asks: Name a couple guilty pleasures?
Chocolate Milk and Friday afternoon naps
Is there something you had before your life with your Sir that you don’t now but that you miss?
Yeah, I miss fast food. I have such huge cravings for Big Macs and shakes sometimes that it takes all my willpower to not get into [...]

We had a very stressful talk last night. It involved what happens in scenes with us because almost 50% of them end sooner than one of us would like them to. We have crashed really hard when this happens. The issue has two parts. For the longest time I just attributed it to being new [...]

Mara asks, What are the things you always do for Master? (again, i.e. with me, I always go barefooted around the house, and always wear my toe rings and anklet)
I always wear my collar. It only comes off to be cleaned. I always get out of my work clothes as soon as I enter the [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

There are tasks I just really don’t like. When Master assigns them but doesn’t give a time frame for completion they sit… and sit… and sit. I can’t wrap my head around the truth of the matter. Master requested that I do something for his pleasure, not mine. This is becoming the case with the [...]

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. As I develop each one listed below I will get more detailed as to how they help me in my [...]

I have to say thank you to everyone who answered the Thursday Question this week about activities that give you pause. It was a tough one.
Activities that we engage in in BDSM are completely personal decisions and I feel that as long as everyone participating is aware of the risks and dangers then the choice [...]