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From Submissive Journal Prompts: When was the last time you were punished? How have things changed since then?
First I should remind readers that I define punishment and discipline as different things. In this post, I’m talking about punishment.
The last time I was punished was well over 2 years ago. I hope to never have to [...]

Reading across the blogosphere you will encounter these words almost synonymous to each other: Discipline and Punishment. The words are far from the same however some dynamics treat them the same. In fact for the longest time I have used the word punishment when I mean discipline. It’s even possible that Master has used these [...]

It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

I’m not doing so well keeping up with my blogging rule. I know that it will end up in the punishment book to be atoned for on Sunday. I was supposed to write a letter to Master on Sunday and I didn’t blog yesterday either. Now I’m writing to kinda make up for yesterday even [...]

Dear Master,
I’m going to try to keep my irritation of today out of this letter, but please forgive me if that becomes impossible.
The feelings I get when I look back on this week are all encompassed on Saturday. When I woke you up wearing lingerie and feeling fresh and happy with life it was like [...]

Dear Master,
This weekend was certainly full of a lot of fun! I had a great time at the munch and party. I hope that we will be able to play at parties in the future. I know I get floaty but there has to be a counter to it so that we can travel sooner. [...]

Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

How should I behave when being punished and why my current behavior is inappropriate.
Punishment behavior is something I think is a learned behavior. As a child, you learn to cry and scream and pout, whine and all over be a terror whenever you are punished. At least that was how it was with me. I [...]

A routine is another step towards the life that I see myself in as your submissive. I crave structure and order and while I’m terrible at doing this for myself, I feel that I can do it for you. I will extend myself to following a routine to please you and improve myself. I want [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

It feels good to see Master getting his thoughts sorted out and that he has honored me by posting here. I’m so proud that he has claimed me and is helping me become who I’ve always wanted to be; comfortable in myself.
My exercise routine has just started but knowing that if I don’t exercise everyday [...]

So a little while ago luna and I celebrated a year of her being collared by me. This seems like as good a time as any to start more intensive training in our relationship.
Most of you will probably think that 3 and a quarter years is a long time to wait before getting into the [...]

Tonight I am coloring my hair; at this very moment the creme is changing my hair from a dark brown to something auburn-ish. I haven’t colored my hair in over 4 years. I always had the perception that Master would want it natural. The fact that he went and helped me pick it out was [...]

I can with all confidence say that I am submissive. I may have lost my way for awhile and it did affect our relationship severely. You ask me again what makes me submissive and I really can’t find anything more to add to what I have already said once before. To reiterate them here; my [...]

From My Bottom Smarts
What do you believe constitutes “topping from the bottom?” Have you or your partner ever done this? If so, how was the situation handled? Are there occasions where “topping from the bottom” is acceptable or even desirable?
My definition of topping from the bottom is when the submissive begins to instruct the dominant [...]

From Bonnie’s Spanko Brunch:
When receiving a spanking, what sounds do you or your partner make? Does the spankee scream, cry, shout, beg, whimper, laugh, moan, or maybe something else? To what extent does the reaction depend upon the circumstances (such as the reason for the spanking, the severity, the implements employed, words used by the [...]

Bonnie over at My Bottom Smarts asks this week:
Have you a favorite room in your home or a favorite piece of furniture where spankings most often occur? Does the location ever depend upon the purpose of the spanking? Do the implements or rituals change when spankings are performed in different rooms? If you could construct [...]

Bonnie asks these questions during her Spanko Brunch this week:
Have you and/or your partner counted strokes during a spanking? If so, did it enhance the experience? To what extent is counting a regular part of your repertoire? If you haven’t counted before, would you consider doing so? Why or why not?
I have counted strokes before. [...]

Hardcore Romance asked the following questions on his blog and it made me really try to discern the difference for myself.
Do you like being a good girl or do you like being called a good girl?
Do you like being a bad girl and getting a spanking in order to make you a good girl?
I love [...]