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I’m a stats whore. I love checking my stats almost 3 times a day (maybe more). I’ve watched my stats fall quite drastically since January. I’m not sure what has changed in my writing to cause it, but I know that I have a regular following and I have readers and commenters that I love. [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

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My submission resolutions are going to be where my hardest work is I think. Master has noted that he wants to be more strict and to get the rules I have adhered to better. I’ve been slacking and so has he. So my first goal is to improve my obedience to the rules he has [...]

Master suggested that I think about some resolutions for next year, some goals I’d like to set for myself. I’ve been giving it some serious thought. I am hoping to have more desire to reach these goals than I did with last years. They kinda just fell away and I forgot them. Definitely not what [...]

Last night Master tied me up. He’s been practicing a new breast harness made purposefully for large breasts. It’s called a cupcake harness because the resulting breasts stick out like the tops of cupcakes beneath the rope. It’s quite a delicious feeling.
I have really found that I’m a rope slut in training; I guess. Just [...]

Bonnie over at My Bottom Smarts asks this week:
Have you a favorite room in your home or a favorite piece of furniture where spankings most often occur? Does the location ever depend upon the purpose of the spanking? Do the implements or rituals change when spankings are performed in different rooms? If you could construct [...]

I am an object of Master’s desire. His affection and passion are poured out on me, sometimes literally. Master loves to use me as an object, be that any orifice. I am his to do as he desires and from this I get so much power. Power to submit, power to feel, power to be [...]

WWTCK_Arthur asks: Can daily masturbation affect your ability to produce children?
Well now that would be so sad if it were true! Unlike women, men have an unlimited supply of the little guys. Masturbation will not affect your sperm production much. In general, the more frequently a man ejaculates, the more efficiently his sperm-producing mechanisms must [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

The NLA-I DVP is a project of the National Leather Association. They began in 1998 with the purpose of educating the BDSM community about the difference between consensual kinky play and abuse. They help victims seek safety and help and provide a large base of resources for the scene. They were the first SM organization [...]

(A full, every extensive glossary on all things sexy and kinky can be found at The Iron Gate)
BDSM is a huge umbrella term for practically anything kinky. The acronym breaks down something like this:
B: Bondage- tying people up with rope, leather or steel. Also can be used mentally by just telling your partner not to [...]

Responding to the Thursday Question: Each person’s service is unique. What makes your service unique and special?
Doing something just like everyone else isn’t really what the lifestyle I lead is all about. I was taught through reading and others that my relationship can be however it develops into; there is no right or wrong way [...]

Now that I have my rules laid out, I have to try to start following them. I know that the next few weeks are going to be rocky as I learn them, get used to them and be constantly reminded of things he has initiated. While I am more than ready, I’m also very nervous [...]

I’ve been a naughty girl. I hurt a really good friend and someone I look up to. The webmaster of Taking-It-Off took action that I most likely deserved. I’m not going into details and dredging up my mistakes. I hope that I can rebuild some sort of relationship that will be full of strength and [...]

This isn’t going to be a long post, but I just wanted to share a really good essay that I discovered on a friend’s website. It has moved me to thinking the past week or so and hopefully will continue to move me to something good in the near future. It’s titled “Two Words” and [...]

This essay is a pretty old one, it was part of a punishment for not shaving… almost 3 years ago. It still is very true for me though, so I’m sharing it here. It’s making me think about how I’m following/not following the rules I have now and how I can work harder at succeeding [...]

This is a current list of rules that I have to follow.
Speech Training:
He shall be called Master unless in vanilla public, then I use his given name. This is to include any time I am speaking with Master directly.
Use please and thank you liberally.

“Yes Master” is an appropriate response, not yeah, yup, [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today: