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Since I no longer have a blogging requirement I have wanted to keep telling my story, my journey, my explorations with myself. I’ve come up with something I hope to make a regular thing, like my Thursday Questions. (Maybe not every week, but still frequent depending on how helpful my readers are!)
What I’d like this [...]

1. Sex in the Morning or Sex at Night?
I love morning sex but we only get it on weekends.
2. Better Sex Music: Sade or Marvin Gaye?
Neither, I like Godsmack, NIN and Guns and Roses for sex.

3. Naughty Pics or Naughty Home Video?
I have to choose? I love both!

4. Fabulous Sex With: Dr. Doug [...]

I’m a stats whore. I love checking my stats almost 3 times a day (maybe more). I’ve watched my stats fall quite drastically since January. I’m not sure what has changed in my writing to cause it, but I know that I have a regular following and I have readers and commenters that I love. [...]

So posting a meme….
Only two rules: You must answer yes or no. You may not explain unless someone asks.
Taken a picture naked? Yes
Made money illegally? No
Had a one night stand? Yes
Been in a fist fight? Yes
Slept with your best friend? No
Had sex in a public place? Yes
Ditched work to have sex? Yes
Slept with a member [...]

I have a headache, which means that this post will either be rambling or so full of thought that you wouldn’t believe I had a headache. Either way I’m sure it will be enjoyable. Come along for the ride.
I’ve been doing a lot of reevaluating my life lately. How I wonder if I’m working the [...]

I’ve not been feeling quite myself lately. I went to bed at 7pm last night, without dinner and slept albeit fitfully for the entire night. I’ve been having problems sleeping I’ve noticed but can’t pin down a source to my frequent waking at night. It’s never enough for me to get out of bed [...]

Orgasm denial and control is a well documented activity online; you can find all sorts of thoughts and opinions, how-tos and what nots from anyone and everyone under the sun. I’m not intending to add any more new ideas to this topic. Here are, in my opinion, a couple of the better written essays out [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

Well, so no one commented on the Thursday Question this week about when you came out as kinky… does that mean no one is out? to anyone? No one wants to admit that they aren’t or are? Hmmm….
I’m out as kinky to all of my friends, half of my family and select few at work.
As [...]

I’ve been sick the past few days, some sort of stomach bug I can’t complain. It came on all of a sudden on Tuesday and I’ve had that icky feeling the past few days. I’m going to have to go to work tomorrow because I just can’t miss another day. I’ll feel so far behind.
I [...]

Manners is something that good parents are supposed to instill in their children. Each family believes in and teaches different manner rules. I grew up in a household that really didn’t empahsize manners at all. How sad and depressing, right? Well, now I have my chance to polish up what I knew and learn (re-learn) [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan
I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home [...]

This week we talked about that pivotal moment when you knew that the lifestyle was for you. To review, the question was:
Every single one of us is in a different place on our journey. Let’s go back to that epiphany moment. How did you know you were suited for this lifestyle? What happened at that [...]

After some thought, I have brought back the Thursday Question. Stay tuned every Thursday for interesting BDSM related questions posted once a week to get your mind working. Share your thoughts here or in your own blog!

I’ve got a new feature here at my blog. It’s on a separate page, titled Ask Me. You can post your questions to me and I will attempt to give you an answer. I’ll take just about any question you can toss at me, and since the questions are moderated, only the ones that get [...]

Bonnie over at My Bottom Smarts asks this week:
Have you a favorite room in your home or a favorite piece of furniture where spankings most often occur? Does the location ever depend upon the purpose of the spanking? Do the implements or rituals change when spankings are performed in different rooms? If you could construct [...]

I’m having problems with my diet program. Part of it is my fault but I really do think the other part is out of my control. First, I’m just not exercising when I have time. I like to put it off. and off. and off. Now I know that my eating is a lot better. [...]

Bonnie asks these questions during her Spanko Brunch this week:
Have you and/or your partner counted strokes during a spanking? If so, did it enhance the experience? To what extent is counting a regular part of your repertoire? If you haven’t counted before, would you consider doing so? Why or why not?
I have counted strokes before. [...]

Hardcore Romance asked the following questions on his blog and it made me really try to discern the difference for myself.
Do you like being a good girl or do you like being called a good girl?
Do you like being a bad girl and getting a spanking in order to make you a good girl?
I love [...]