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It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

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I. Mental Growth
VI. Behavior

II. Protocol
VII. Domestication

III. Physical Appearance
VIII. Creativity

IV. Sexual Training

IX. Ritual and Symbolism

V. Self Discipline
X. In the Dungeon

I. Mental Growth
Developing and maintaining the submissive mindset

Defining Myself Submissive
Discipline and Punishment
Give and Receive
Positive Attitude
Submissive Goals
Submissive Qualities
Submissive Triggers

II. Protocol
Master has very specific requirements for my manners [...]

domestic -

of or pertaining to the home, the household, household affairs, or the family: domestic pleasures.
devoted to home life or household affairs.

We all have a home to live in; be it an apartment, house, mobile home, condo or mansion. We all have to do some housework to maintain that home. I admit that I do [...]

I have to say thank you to everyone who answered the Thursday Question this week about activities that give you pause. It was a tough one.
Activities that we engage in in BDSM are completely personal decisions and I feel that as long as everyone participating is aware of the risks and dangers then the choice [...]

It feels good to see Master getting his thoughts sorted out and that he has honored me by posting here. I’m so proud that he has claimed me and is helping me become who I’ve always wanted to be; comfortable in myself.
My exercise routine has just started but knowing that if I don’t exercise everyday [...]

There are several aspects of appearance that I need to be aware of for Master. These are physical appearance, dress and health. Within each of these requirements I need to do certain things to appease him. I am fighting with the way I was raised, and they laziness I fell into when I got married. [...]

Manners is something that good parents are supposed to instill in their children. Each family believes in and teaches different manner rules. I grew up in a household that really didn’t empahsize manners at all. How sad and depressing, right? Well, now I have my chance to polish up what I knew and learn (re-learn) [...]

I’ve had to learn a lot about courtesy and respect since I met Master. I am ashamed to admit that my family was rude, obnoxious and crude. I picked it up and didn’t bat an eyelash when I treated people poorly. I was described by my best friend as being harsh and without tact. I [...]

Not really the training as in what I’m supposed to say in a structured way but how my mood, attitude and behavior affect how I say things to Master. I’ve been all royal and uppity with him on many occasions and while he’s been strict reminding me that I’m not supposed to talk that way [...]

Dear Master,
Not to seem too self centered but I think I did pretty good this week. I hope I can continue on this journey this week. I’ve been a lot more concious of what is going on around you and when you need attention. Right now I know it almost always seems like it is [...]

Yesterday’s rope demo munch has pretty good. We were new people at this munch and while there were no introductions we did feel… foreign. The rope demo however, was fantastic. Master and I as well as the entire group got hands on fun. Master didn’t learn a whole lot; but what he did was great.
The [...]

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The key difference between S&M and Abuse, is “consent”.
Consent = Is an agreed approval of what is done and/or proposed by another.
Abuse = to use so as to injure or damage: MALTREAT
SM is

Is based on the safe, sane, consensual theory
SM is a controlled environment
SM has safe words to stop the scene
In a [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

What is the biggest misconception you feel that people have about those who engage in BDSM?
I feel that the biggest misconception is that you have to like pain. If it’s either flogging, spanking, pinching or many other pain activities; many people think that is all there is to BDSM. I’m into pain/pleasure mix. But I’m [...]

This week marked a landmark in my weight loss struggles. I reached my lowest weight in 5 years. I do hope that I didn’t gain it all back but will have to wait till next week to weigh again to know for sure. I was very happy to say the least and hopeful that I [...]

“I want you to promise that you will try to be as good as you were today, everyday.”
“I promise I will try to be good everyday Master.”
Master has honored me today, I have honored him. He was full of pride for me, I’ve been good. He told me that I have changed and I’m not [...]

There’s really no change in my life right now. I’m at a point now that either something drastic will change or I will scream at the top of my lungs just to shatter the silence my life has brought out. I’m still waiting to hear about possible contract changes to bring me to full time [...]

Basic Stats
Physical Features:

Brown hair
Blue eyes
6′ tall
300 lbs
Facial dimples
Freckles

Age: 30
Birthdate: October 24, 1977
Hobbies: Poetry, Spanish, Web development, Reading, Vampires, Learning, Cross-stitch/Emboidery
Marital Status: Separated (god I want to be divorced) and also collared to Master KnyghtMare
Family Data: 1 natural sister, 3 adopted brothers, 1 niece and 2 nephews, 1 godson
I’m very distant to my family though and [...]