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(This was written a while ago, but rereading it sure helps me recenter.)
It’s always hard to figure out who you are as a person, I can’t say that I know everything there is to know about myself, but I am willing to give it a try to at least let you see who I think [...]

Dated: 9-14-06
Dear Master,
I’ve gone to writing in a paper journal so that I can try to be more open and honest and so that I don’t try to write for an audience. This is just for you.
I’m still just shocked about last night. I honestly felt that you were ending things. When you cried with [...]

I’ve been a very bad girl lately. It’s really inexcusable; as everything is with me lately. I’ve been disappointing, both to myself and to my love and Master. First, if you notice the date of this blog, I am quite late posting, as my rules state it is supposed to be every other day. It [...]

This is a current list of rules that I have to follow.
Speech Training:
He shall be called Master unless in vanilla public, then I use his given name. This is to include any time I am speaking with Master directly.
Use please and thank you liberally.

“Yes Master” is an appropriate response, not yeah, yup, [...]

What, in your eyes, makes a person submissive?
A submissive is a man or woman that for whatever reason chooses to follow the directions, adjust to behavior modifications and submit to the power of another. These things can include but are not limited to sexual submission, domestic service, platonic recession of power, work environment with a [...]

I’m blogging for the Institute for 21st Century Relationships.
The Institute was founded at the dawn of the new millennium (July 2000) to help people create lasting intimate relationships that will work in our present world. We are a research and [...]

What, in your eyes, makes a person Dominant?
A Dominant carries specific qualities for me that express who he is to the submissive and to the community. These qualities are those that I look for in any person that says they are Dominant.
The first one of importance to me is self control. A Dominant shouldn’t upset [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

Attaining a satisfactory level of love and companionship through intimate relations is an unalterable, fundamental need of all human beings. The Institute for 21st Century Relationships exists to facilitate the fulfillment [...]

I’m blogging for ITCR. They exist to create a climate where all forms of consensual fullfilling relationships are understood and equally respected as valid relationship choices. I found this charity when I was looking for a charity that wouldn’t mind my normal content of this blog, which is alternative and adult. They were welcoming since [...]

Blogathon 2006 is a day dedicated to raising funds for charities around the world. Bloggers from every walk of life have pledged to stay up 24 hours - posting every 30 minutes. I am currently asking all who visit here to donate just $1 to The Institute for 21st Century Relationships. Everyone who donates will [...]

I’m continuing my thoughts on a personal submissive code of ethics. If you missed the previous 2 parts:
Part 1
Part 2
Each time I add things to my personal code I realize just how hard the whole thing is going to be. I hope that one day I will be able to look at it [...]

Continuing more on my code of ethics I’ve come to realize that there are submissive code of ethics out there on the net that seem all and good, but not very personal. A common one I see passed around is:
1. I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that [...]

I had a dream last night of what Valentine’s Day should have been like. It should have included romantic interludes, and affectionate gazes. It should have had time being with each other, so close you could breathe the same air. It should have had climaxes and breaks for exhaustion. It should have let me feel [...]

How do you address others in the lifestyle? Do you automatically give strangers respect, or give automatic courtesy and wait for the individual to earn personal respect? — Kindlings
This very question comes up on practically every list I’m on, every real life group, every conversation on IM’s and on IRC and the confusion of new [...]

I submit. I don’t do it for vanity or pride, I do it because I need to, I want to and it brings out the inner strength in me. I am not submissive in any other situation other than ones involving Master. I find myself extremely strong-willed and independent. Master says that he likes that [...]

Ok, so silly title I know, but I just had to share how I think my cats have more dog traits than a typical cat duo should have.
First there is Zeus, who comes when called, loves to have his butt scratched and will play with you for hours. He’s attached at the hip with Master [...]

Today I as awoke I had the feeling that I needed to take inventory on my life and the direction it’s going. I am unsure why, but I find myself thinking about it more often now that I am almost done with school and Master has regular jobs (although the payments for said jobs are [...]

This morning as I was waiting for my Musical Appreciation class to start I took a moment. Not a big moment, but one that helped me realize that there is time in my life to do the things that I want to do, that I need to to to achieve my goals, and the desire [...]

This is the other side of the previous post. In this case, no you are not. Granted there are times and places for all behavior, you should treat everyone with respect and not push yourself into the limelight more than any other. It’s not about how many times you are getting noticed but about how [...]