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In a recent thread on a forum I came across the word Celebrity Service as a form of service that you can classify as treating your owner as a celebrity in your service to them. Things such as opening doors, caufferring, ordering their food and handling service personnel all fall under this umbrella. Now I’ve [...]

A routine is another step towards the life that I see myself in as your submissive. I crave structure and order and while I’m terrible at doing this for myself, I feel that I can do it for you. I will extend myself to following a routine to please you and improve myself. I want [...]

Mara asks, What are the things you always do for Master? (again, i.e. with me, I always go barefooted around the house, and always wear my toe rings and anklet)
I always wear my collar. It only comes off to be cleaned. I always get out of my work clothes as soon as I enter the [...]

It’s very important to make Master sexually happy at every possible moment. I have a bit of learning to do in this department. I’ve always hesitated when it comes to teasing Master’s cock with my mouth and hands. I love how he can make me feel with it, so it’s my turn to show him [...]

I’ve been sick the past few days, some sort of stomach bug I can’t complain. It came on all of a sudden on Tuesday and I’ve had that icky feeling the past few days. I’m going to have to go to work tomorrow because I just can’t miss another day. I’ll feel so far behind.
I [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]

Each relationship that we pursue is going to be unique and different. We can not compare one person’s dynamic with another’s even if we can agree that it is under the term of BDSM that we hold this relationship. In a recent comment on the post Speech Training there came up a need for me [...]

I have carpal tunnel.
The doctor said it was still a minor case, but with the right treatment it may stay a minor case. I now have wrist braces to wear at night, every night. So much for the cuffs that I’ve been wearing for years as a part of my bedtime ritual. I’m hoping that [...]

My submission resolutions are going to be where my hardest work is I think. Master has noted that he wants to be more strict and to get the rules I have adhered to better. I’ve been slacking and so has he. So my first goal is to improve my obedience to the rules he has [...]

Bonnie over at My Bottom Smarts asks this week:
Have you a favorite room in your home or a favorite piece of furniture where spankings most often occur? Does the location ever depend upon the purpose of the spanking? Do the implements or rituals change when spankings are performed in different rooms? If you could construct [...]

It really was a hard choice for me to decide whether I was going purple for National Domestic Violence Awareness month or pink for Breast Cancer awareness. I did Domestic Violence in July for the Blogathon and I intend on doing it again next year so the decision was made. This blog is going pink [...]

Master and I went to look at an apartment yesterday. It’s 10 mins from work in a small (but larger than we are) town. I liked it a lot. Master pointed out a few down points for him, but there is one up point. The things that he didn’t like were the living room [...]

I need to brainstorm for my writing assignment. My writing assignment for this week is to discuss a ritual that I might like to add to our relationship. I have a few in mind but I’d love to hear everyone else’s ideas. What rituals do you love in your own relationships?
I have a bedtime ritual [...]

Dear Master,
Not to seem too self centered but I think I did pretty good this week. I hope I can continue on this journey this week. I’ve been a lot more concious of what is going on around you and when you need attention. Right now I know it almost always seems like it is [...]

I have a writing assignment that actually was supposed to be done during my vacation week but it slipped my mind and now I’m working on it. Well, I’m thinking about it. I’m not really sure what I should say exactly. I have so many ideas swimming in my head but something is holding me [...]

So, how did you do? Could you see the signs of abuse?
In a consensual ritualized BDSM relationship this scenario would be completely normal.
I’m off to my local munch, see you at 10:30 CST, stay tuned for Mija!!
Coming up next…
Mija will be taking over to blog for 4 hours while I’m away at a local BDSM [...]

It would look nice if I answered my own questions now wouldn’t it?
Master and I have always been a D/s relationship.  He’s not the first relationship I’ve had but the first D/s one; truly. Reflecting back on the way I was raised and the way I thought a relationship should be I’ve never been more [...]

Welcome to Exchange Edition #2, highlighting the most interesting, most controversial and smartest posts from the BDSM blogosphere - as nominated by the bloggers who wrote them. Not chosen by a committee, or pre-judged, these posts reflect each bloggers ‘pick’ of their own best work in the previous 2 weeks. It’s an easy way to [...]

I’ve had some very enlightening comments to my situation as of late. I do appreciate every comment I’ve gotten and they have really helped me see a few things about myself that just took someone looking in instead of me looking out.
I choose to be submissive; I guess that’s a harder journey than someone that [...]

In an effort to be productive I have worked on The Iron Gate this morning. Just some basic maintenance stuff like adding descriptions to essays and links to hopefully make them more useful to users. I’ve got plans to work on the admin section a bit so that updating the site is a bit easier [...]