BDSM is Love

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
What’s the hardest [...]

I’m not doing so well keeping up with my blogging rule. I know that it will end up in the punishment book to be atoned for on Sunday. I was supposed to write a letter to Master on Sunday and I didn’t blog yesterday either. Now I’m writing to kinda make up for yesterday even [...]

Each relationship that we pursue is going to be unique and different. We can not compare one person’s dynamic with another’s even if we can agree that it is under the term of BDSM that we hold this relationship. In a recent comment on the post Speech Training there came up a need for me [...]

Master and I are off balance. Lately we’ve been doing our own thing, freely snapping at each other and not very welcoming to D/s or even vanilla sexual advances. It could be all related to holiday stress, or financial strain. Master and I have stayed at our own computers and not really interacting more than, [...]

This whole weekend is a celebration for Master and I. We have been together for 3 years and we have grown closer, more intimate and stronger in our roles with one another. It’s a beautiful time.
Lots of sex is promised, as well as bondage, flogging and anything else we can fit in the mix. We [...]

Why Is Domestic Violence So Common?
The roots of domestic violence are embedded in attitudes toward women which have existed for hundreds of years. Even today there are numerous societies where a woman is treated as the property of her husband and he is seen as having the right to use physical force in relating to [...]

What is the biggest misconception you feel that people have about those who engage in BDSM?
I feel that the biggest misconception is that you have to like pain. If it’s either flogging, spanking, pinching or many other pain activities; many people think that is all there is to BDSM. I’m into pain/pleasure mix. But I’m [...]

(A full, every extensive glossary on all things sexy and kinky can be found at The Iron Gate)
BDSM is a huge umbrella term for practically anything kinky. The acronym breaks down something like this:
B: Bondage- tying people up with rope, leather or steel. Also can be used mentally by just telling your partner not to [...]

Welcome to Exchange Edition #2, highlighting the most interesting, most controversial and smartest posts from the BDSM blogosphere - as nominated by the bloggers who wrote them. Not chosen by a committee, or pre-judged, these posts reflect each bloggers ‘pick’ of their own best work in the previous 2 weeks. It’s an easy way to [...]

The Thursday Question last week was: “What has been the hardest thing for you to accept in your Dominance/submission?”
No one answered the question but I thought that this would make an excellent topic for today’s post.
The hardest thing for me to accept has been that I am not in control of a lot of things. [...]

My boss called me up this morning and asked if he could come by. I said sure, I didn’t have any fear of anything wrong, and who would say no to your boss? Well he did my annual review. I did exceptionally well for only being with the company for 7 months (annual reviews [...]

I sit here in a countdown. As I’ve shared; I’m in some form of butt plug training, however without an appropriate butt plug that stays in place it’s quite a challenge. My ass muscles are playing ‘ins and outs’ with my plug in a never ending effort for comfort. I have 30 mins. I’m very [...]

I hope everyone’s Thanksgiving went well. Master and I spent a nice day at home with no work, no stress (other than my usual cooking stress) and it was great. It would have been better had my pussy not still been sore from 3 days ago when Master and I went all out with so [...]

Dated 10-30-06
Dear Master,
I did a lot of thinking today on my way to work. I thought about how much my life has changed since you entered my world. I believe it’s all for the good. I’m a better me.
I’m not as bossy as I once was. Now someday I hope I realize that bossiness is [...]

I can’t help but feel frustrated when Master looks at me with those lustful eyes and I sit here in pain and ache from my darn shoulder still acting up. He wants me, he wants me rough and wild and I can’t get my body to agree to that. I want him too, so very [...]

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

I thought I’d cover what my relationship is in comparison to a “normal” or vanilla relationship.
A D/s relationship’s core is power exchange. One person is the dominant and the other is submissive. In my relationship my boyfriend is the Dominant. He is in charge. It’s a lot like the old 50’s style marriage in this [...]

Chained to your mercy
I beg to hold me tighter
Wrapped in your embrace
Let’s pull an all-nighter.
Our love is bound by joy,
compassion and commitment
Roles solidified in power exchange
A collar the sole adornment.
The connection of a girl to her Master
is more about worship than love
Yet love is the basis for her trust
She gives all she has to be [...]

Yes Valentine’s was hard. Thank you for all the comments to my blog about your thoughts and feelings and the support while I work on things.
Yesterday after some gentle coaxing from starla I was able to see that I have a greater goal to reach and not to dwell on this setback. I did finally [...]

I always wanted a day like today. I feel at right with the world, I got so much accomplished and I’m ready to face the week ahead. It’s amazing I haven’t had many days like today. I should do my best to make them happen in the future. I’ve felt like all is perfect. I’m [...]