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In a recent thread on a forum I came across the word Celebrity Service as a form of service that you can classify as treating your owner as a celebrity in your service to them. Things such as opening doors, caufferring, ordering their food and handling service personnel all fall under this umbrella. Now I’ve [...]

Etiquette is a code of behavior or a set of social rules that govern what we do. Within a BDSM context there are a lot more defined rules than in other settings or situations. I think a lot of what we do is with a set of rules. They are either posted or implied but [...]

Last week I wrote about my issues with exercise and dieting in general. After that post Master spoke to me about how he doesn’t like the depression I get into when I don’t do well with my diet. It was a difficult discussion for me because I knew that if I asked him to take [...]

Master spoke to me yesterday about this blog. He said that the last few posts have all been about the same thing; how content I am in my submission and my progress. He said he’s been pondering removing the blogging requirement from my rules. I’m not sure why it disturbs me that he’s thinking of [...]

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When I reflect on where I’ve been and where I’m going I begin to wonder how in the world I got where I am. Five years ago seemed like such a long time ago. I was not on this journey that I am now on. I wasn’t even able to explore more than in front [...]

So posting a meme….
Only two rules: You must answer yes or no. You may not explain unless someone asks.
Taken a picture naked? Yes
Made money illegally? No
Had a one night stand? Yes
Been in a fist fight? Yes
Slept with your best friend? No
Had sex in a public place? Yes
Ditched work to have sex? Yes
Slept with a member [...]

If you’ve been reading my blog you know that I St John’s Wart has been keeping my moods in check and balancing out the lows and highs so that I’m happier longer and less stressed with situations that I can’t change. I stopped taking them about 3 weeks ago without telling Master.
Since then there has [...]

I have a headache, which means that this post will either be rambling or so full of thought that you wouldn’t believe I had a headache. Either way I’m sure it will be enjoyable. Come along for the ride.
I’ve been doing a lot of reevaluating my life lately. How I wonder if I’m working the [...]

Mara asks, What are the things you always do for Master? (again, i.e. with me, I always go barefooted around the house, and always wear my toe rings and anklet)
I always wear my collar. It only comes off to be cleaned. I always get out of my work clothes as soon as I enter the [...]

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. As I develop each one listed below I will get more detailed as to how they help me in my [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

Master would like to use my ass whenever he wants. He also has a plan to have me wear butt plugs on a regular basis to remind me of my place and prepare me for more frequent anal sex and play. A butt plug will allow me to relax better, faster, easier when he wishes [...]

So a little while ago luna and I celebrated a year of her being collared by me. This seems like as good a time as any to start more intensive training in our relationship.
Most of you will probably think that 3 and a quarter years is a long time to wait before getting into the [...]

Manners is something that good parents are supposed to instill in their children. Each family believes in and teaches different manner rules. I grew up in a household that really didn’t empahsize manners at all. How sad and depressing, right? Well, now I have my chance to polish up what I knew and learn (re-learn) [...]

I’ve had to learn a lot about courtesy and respect since I met Master. I am ashamed to admit that my family was rude, obnoxious and crude. I picked it up and didn’t bat an eyelash when I treated people poorly. I was described by my best friend as being harsh and without tact. I [...]

The goals of any submissive are as varied as the relationship as to which they tend. I’ve been given the task of naming the goals I currently have within my submission and then explain how I plan on working towards them. A daunting task indeed! I’ve really not given it much thought honestly before now [...]

What can a Dom do to show control over a submissive whether they are live in or not? These ideas have to be keeping in mind that the submissive has to work and be visible in public. They also have to keep in mind male and female submissives.
My mind went nuts over each individual activity [...]

I can with all confidence say that I am submissive. I may have lost my way for awhile and it did affect our relationship severely. You ask me again what makes me submissive and I really can’t find anything more to add to what I have already said once before. To reiterate them here; my [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]