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“Master can we have spanking sex tonight?” I question. It’s what I call it when we blend pain and sex. Generally they go together but I wanted a bit more pain than usual so that’s how I ask for it.
“I’m sure we can manage something,” he replies with a wicked grin.
The preliminaries are hotter than [...]

1. Sex in the Morning or Sex at Night?
I love morning sex but we only get it on weekends.
2. Better Sex Music: Sade or Marvin Gaye?
Neither, I like Godsmack, NIN and Guns and Roses for sex.

3. Naughty Pics or Naughty Home Video?
I have to choose? I love both!

4. Fabulous Sex With: Dr. Doug [...]

Being that I’m a masochist, I love pain. I’ve never really thought about it or analyzed what that means really, but reading other people’s blogs has always helped me see that saying I’m masochist is just another huge personal term in BDSM as a whole. So, to think it though, this is what being a [...]

Sometimes when you are itching for some play it’s a very specific type of play that you want. In our relationship I’m free to ask for what I want, but Master does not have to comply. Today I asked Master for some helpless fuck whore time. I wanted to be bound so that I couldn’t [...]

Ok, so I don’t know what to write about so Master comments, “How about that you aren’t exercising like you’re supposed to and you’ll get caned like last week.”
Uh-huh.
I’m being bad. I hate caning and yet it’s not keeping from not doing the exercise. Anyone want to know why? Do I think that pain [...]

I’m going to ShibariCon, I’m going to ShibariCon! Yes, I know I’ve posted before about going, but this time it’s official; I’ve paid the registration, Master has already been registered for a month, the hotel reservation has been made and all we need to do is save our pennies so that we can afford it [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

Tonight I am coloring my hair; at this very moment the creme is changing my hair from a dark brown to something auburn-ish. I haven’t colored my hair in over 4 years. I always had the perception that Master would want it natural. The fact that he went and helped me pick it out was [...]

Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
Don Cambion
catalina loves her collar
The Spanking Writers
Thursday’s Child
trinity-pup
No Limits
Dancing with the [...]

From My Bottom Smarts Spanko Brunch: What traits make a great spanker?
A great spanker is as unique and individual as the spankee. When I was first exploring BDSM I couldn’t tell you the difference between one person’s play style and another. Now I can see it within moments of their first strike.
The traits I see [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #115? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
Sexay
“You bite my [...]

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“‘Twas the Night Before Christmas” by Unknown (kinky)
‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even my spouse;
The paddles were hung in the cupboard with care,
In hopes that her bottom soon would be bare;
The children were nestled at grandma’s in bed,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And [...]

From Bonnie’s Spanko Brunch:
When receiving a spanking, what sounds do you or your partner make? Does the spankee scream, cry, shout, beg, whimper, laugh, moan, or maybe something else? To what extent does the reaction depend upon the circumstances (such as the reason for the spanking, the severity, the implements employed, words used by the [...]

I’m instantly grumpy when Master asks me to wear a butt plug for awhile. I really hate wearing butt plugs just because. I’m fine with them during scene or during sex but just hate they way the feel when they are just sitting there, invading me. Making me feel icky and like I need to [...]

This weekend was a lot of fun! Master and I went to a private play party where he got to tie me up. I was in a hogtie and really floaty for quite some time. I loved every minute of it.
We stayed in a suite that had a whirlpool and while Master got more time [...]

This week we talked about that pivotal moment when you knew that the lifestyle was for you. To review, the question was:
Every single one of us is in a different place on our journey. Let’s go back to that epiphany moment. How did you know you were suited for this lifestyle? What happened at that [...]

So a lot of things have popped in and out of my mind today having to do with my birthday, getting older and how things have changed. I’m 30. There’s no getting past that. I feel like I’ve stepped over a hurdle of age and I’m hoping I don’t begin to feel it.
I was [...]