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You have to love it when someone has the guts to say something that really hits home for you. I’ve seen a lot of blogs out there with the submissive is pretty much whining that the Dom isn’t Dom enough and that they don’t give theme enough direction. Or the ones who say that they [...]

Since I no longer have a blogging requirement I have wanted to keep telling my story, my journey, my explorations with myself. I’ve come up with something I hope to make a regular thing, like my Thursday Questions. (Maybe not every week, but still frequent depending on how helpful my readers are!)
What I’d like this [...]

Thank god the weekend is here. This week has been the week from hell! Flooding, more flooding, loss of internet with officials saying, “No known date for restoration of services.” Thankfully, we were restored today so my hiatus wasn’t affected at all. I’m exhausted, spent 3 times as much money on gas to go the [...]

Master spoke to me yesterday about this blog. He said that the last few posts have all been about the same thing; how content I am in my submission and my progress. He said he’s been pondering removing the blogging requirement from my rules. I’m not sure why it disturbs me that he’s thinking of [...]

When I reflect on where I’ve been and where I’m going I begin to wonder how in the world I got where I am. Five years ago seemed like such a long time ago. I was not on this journey that I am now on. I wasn’t even able to explore more than in front [...]

It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

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Thank you to everyone who participated in this week’s Thursday Question!
Marks have always been a wonderful thing for me. When I first started out they were like notches in the bedpost about what I’ve tried and haven’t tried. I could itemize them in my head; that was the crop, that was the paddle, that was [...]

I have a headache, which means that this post will either be rambling or so full of thought that you wouldn’t believe I had a headache. Either way I’m sure it will be enjoyable. Come along for the ride.
I’ve been doing a lot of reevaluating my life lately. How I wonder if I’m working the [...]

Orgasm denial and control is a well documented activity online; you can find all sorts of thoughts and opinions, how-tos and what nots from anyone and everyone under the sun. I’m not intending to add any more new ideas to this topic. Here are, in my opinion, a couple of the better written essays out [...]

Saying no. This is a difficult essay for me. I assume you wanted me to write about when I say no to sexual things. A lot of the time when I say no, it has reason behind it. The rest of the time, I realize it is excuses. How I feel about saying no is [...]

If you have been reading my blog you know that I’ve been working on revising my parent site, The Iron Gate. Well, the wait is over! I have debuted the site and hope that everyone will come on over and take a look at the new design, new method and the ease of adding your [...]

Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]

I complain… a lot. Every time something is suggested or commanded I have to come back with a why, or I don’t feel like it or other some such reason. I’m sure for me that complaining is an active part of my everyday life. It’s an attempt at control. I don’t like the request or [...]

As we both already know, I am not naturally submissive. I don’t have the need to serve and please everyone all the time and worst of all I don’t stay in the right mindset to please you all the time either. It’s a balancing act of love and trust and desire for you that brings [...]

I’m getting it a lot more recently. I can’t explain it really. It takes me completely by surprise and I don’t know how I’m supposed to respond. My heart bounds, my pride swells and I blush ruby red. What is it?
I’m being recognized. If not visually, as soon as someone hears my name their eyes [...]

The goals of any submissive are as varied as the relationship as to which they tend. I’ve been given the task of naming the goals I currently have within my submission and then explain how I plan on working towards them. A daunting task indeed! I’ve really not given it much thought honestly before now [...]

I can with all confidence say that I am submissive. I may have lost my way for awhile and it did affect our relationship severely. You ask me again what makes me submissive and I really can’t find anything more to add to what I have already said once before. To reiterate them here; my [...]

My domestic goals are short and sweet.

Do not go to bed with dirty dishes piled in the sink. Dishes are to be washed before bedtime.
Pick up all rooms on a daily basis so that weekend cleaning does not take hours.
Make the bed daily when I get home from work.
Prepare more meals that left overs can [...]

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