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I had this sudden urge in me and I wanted to see it fullfilled. Just weeks ago I would have dismissed urges as just something I can live without. But not today. I wanted, no, needed this.
I turned to Master and asked him for a favor.
“Would you slap me Master?”
“What, like in the face?”
“Yes please, [...]

Serving to serve is one form of service I provide my Master. Somehow I’ve compartmentalized it from service for pleasure. It could just be my way of providing more service to him in different ways.
An example of service to serve is when I’m not in the mood for a blow job but I know he [...]

I’ve just finished Kushiel’s Justice which if you have read the Kushiel’s Legacy Series you will want to pick this up. I’ve been waiting for 5 months for it come out in paperback and the day finally came. I love it and was doubly excited to see that there is a finally book coming soon [...]

During our munch this past Saturday we talked about training; specifically about training a submissive undergoes. I used myself as example quite a bit because I know what I’ve been through to process the training I am constantly under. From the humble beginnings of please and thank yous to opening doors, the proper apology into [...]

When I reflect on where I’ve been and where I’m going I begin to wonder how in the world I got where I am. Five years ago seemed like such a long time ago. I was not on this journey that I am now on. I wasn’t even able to explore more than in front [...]

It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

I’m a stats whore. I love checking my stats almost 3 times a day (maybe more). I’ve watched my stats fall quite drastically since January. I’m not sure what has changed in my writing to cause it, but I know that I have a regular following and I have readers and commenters that I love. [...]

Dear Master,
This weekend was certainly full of a lot of fun! I had a great time at the munch and party. I hope that we will be able to play at parties in the future. I know I get floaty but there has to be a counter to it so that we can travel sooner. [...]

Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

I have a headache, which means that this post will either be rambling or so full of thought that you wouldn’t believe I had a headache. Either way I’m sure it will be enjoyable. Come along for the ride.
I’ve been doing a lot of reevaluating my life lately. How I wonder if I’m working the [...]

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
Everyone gets angry, but [...]

domestic -

of or pertaining to the home, the household, household affairs, or the family: domestic pleasures.
devoted to home life or household affairs.

We all have a home to live in; be it an apartment, house, mobile home, condo or mansion. We all have to do some housework to maintain that home. I admit that I do [...]

Thank you everyone who commented on the Thursday Question about experience. It’s a challenging topic, to say the least.
Determining experience is a tricky for anyone. There are a lot of variables in deciding if you are experienced or not. I could say that I’m experienced in that I’ve been living in a D/s relationship [...]

Saying no. This is a difficult essay for me. I assume you wanted me to write about when I say no to sexual things. A lot of the time when I say no, it has reason behind it. The rest of the time, I realize it is excuses. How I feel about saying no is [...]

How should I behave when being punished and why my current behavior is inappropriate.
Punishment behavior is something I think is a learned behavior. As a child, you learn to cry and scream and pout, whine and all over be a terror whenever you are punished. At least that was how it was with me. I [...]

A routine is another step towards the life that I see myself in as your submissive. I crave structure and order and while I’m terrible at doing this for myself, I feel that I can do it for you. I will extend myself to following a routine to please you and improve myself. I want [...]

There are tasks I just really don’t like. When Master assigns them but doesn’t give a time frame for completion they sit… and sit… and sit. I can’t wrap my head around the truth of the matter. Master requested that I do something for his pleasure, not mine. This is becoming the case with the [...]

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. As I develop each one listed below I will get more detailed as to how they help me in my [...]

I have to say thank you to everyone who answered the Thursday Question this week about activities that give you pause. It was a tough one.
Activities that we engage in in BDSM are completely personal decisions and I feel that as long as everyone participating is aware of the risks and dangers then the choice [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]