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It’s really quite amazing that I have so much to say all the time about my submission to Master and the beauty of that is it continues to change and grow and extend into all facets of my life. Even when our daily life involves doing the dishes and fixing dinner I can feel my [...]

Thank you to everyone who participated in this week’s Thursday Question!
Marks have always been a wonderful thing for me. When I first started out they were like notches in the bedpost about what I’ve tried and haven’t tried. I could itemize them in my head; that was the crop, that was the paddle, that was [...]

We had a very stressful talk last night. It involved what happens in scenes with us because almost 50% of them end sooner than one of us would like them to. We have crashed really hard when this happens. The issue has two parts. For the longest time I just attributed it to being new [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

I have to say thank you to everyone who answered the Thursday Question this week about activities that give you pause. It was a tough one.
Activities that we engage in in BDSM are completely personal decisions and I feel that as long as everyone participating is aware of the risks and dangers then the choice [...]

People can come by and ask me questions about anything and I’ll try to answer them honestly and as best I can. I don’t consider myself an expert at all but I do have a pretty good grasp of some things. Here’s a question that was asked awhile back and my response.
I’m so glad I [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

I complain… a lot. Every time something is suggested or commanded I have to come back with a why, or I don’t feel like it or other some such reason. I’m sure for me that complaining is an active part of my everyday life. It’s an attempt at control. I don’t like the request or [...]

As we both already know, I am not naturally submissive. I don’t have the need to serve and please everyone all the time and worst of all I don’t stay in the right mindset to please you all the time either. It’s a balancing act of love and trust and desire for you that brings [...]

My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
A Bad Man in a Bad Place
Alphaslave
anglefire’s journal
At times restless
Lolidoll
Dominate My [...]

The second essay that Norische has on the subject of dangerous situation is titled, Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves
She lists and gives descriptions of submissives that may pose a problem to unsuspecting dominants. Of these she lists:

Cyber slave/sub.
The Professional Victim slave/sub.
The Show Piece [...]

Norische has a couple essays that deal with warning signs of dangerous situations and people. This first one is titled: Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants
She gives a few key things to look out for in Dominants that are bad news.

If someone submits to you [...]

When I was just getting started in BDSM, I didn’t know a lot about safety. I didn’t screen possible play partners and I rarely set up safe calls. I blame it on ignorance or naiveness.
I went off alone late at night for what turned out to really be a booty call. I didn’t know [...]

uncreatedsnow brought this scenario to me and asked if I could talk about it; that it’s good for my theme this year:
Well an old boyfriend was trying to get back together with me, and being disinterested i explained that i was into kink/bdsm/etc. and that it just wouldn’t work or be the same… after explaining [...]

Is it more difficult to prove that someone has been the victim of abuse in a BDSM relationship than to prove that someone has been abused in a vanilla relationship and, if so, how does one go about proving the abuse?
It’s not really about proving abuse and more about substantiating if consent was given. [...]

The key difference between S&M and Abuse, is “consent”.
Consent = Is an agreed approval of what is done and/or proposed by another.
Abuse = to use so as to injure or damage: MALTREAT
SM is

Is based on the safe, sane, consensual theory
SM is a controlled environment
SM has safe words to stop the scene
In a [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

Welcome to Exchange Edition #3, highlighting the most interesting, most controversial and smartest posts from the BDSM blogosphere - as nominated by the bloggers who wrote them. Not chosen by a committee, or pre-judged, these posts reflect each bloggers ‘pick’ of their own best work in the previous 2 weeks. It’s an easy way to [...]

So, you’ve happened upon this blog and it looks interesting, it has a large archive you can’t even imagine combing through but you wonder who in the world this luna is, right?
You’ve come to the right place, because I am she. I’m now almost 30, living in my first real D/s relationship. I’m learning and [...]