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I’m a stats whore. I love checking my stats almost 3 times a day (maybe more). I’ve watched my stats fall quite drastically since January. I’m not sure what has changed in my writing to cause it, but I know that I have a regular following and I have readers and commenters that I love. [...]

Master and I have an idea for another website. It would be a rope bondage site. Something with tutorials and pictures, how-tos and reviews of suppliers, rope, books and other items. What we’d like to get from you is ideas for what would be useful in a site like that. How can we set it [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

Calling all graphic artists! I have a friend who has asked me for a banner for their website, and being as I am not artistically inclined I’m asking anyone who would like to help to go on over to MJ’s slave’s website and contact her about your willingness to help!
A Slave’s True Nature

As a part of my Physical Appearance, I need to start working on my personal grooming habits, pick up more care in what I do and hopefully do some things at home that would normally cost at a spa. I’d like to pick up a routine for at-home waxing, makeup application tips, manicures and pedicures [...]

My blog is 3 years old today (well, yesterday). I can’t believe I’m still going strong and have things to say. It’s been a huge part of my submission development and growth as a person for Master. It was started when we got together and it’s had ups and downs just like I have. Please [...]

So, you probably wonder where I was yesterday since if you know my schedule I should have blogged yesterday. Well, I was in bed, sick. I’ve had whatever crud has been going around. Master only got touched by it, but it laid me flat yesterday. Whatever it is, I’m not 100% yet which is a [...]

I’ve been a bit down in the dumps the past few days, I’ve not been sleeping well and I’ve not been able to server Master as he would wish me to. I’m hoping that this is related to my depressive state, the weather or my current workload. I don’t want to be sick! I’ve had [...]

In two weeks I will be 30. I’m not sure how I think about this. I do know that I think about it often. It’s a milestone in my life and I don’t even know if I’ve really gotten far from my last milestone of 21. Sure I’ve traveled this journey and taken a few [...]

Alright folks… the verdict is: 311. Yup, I’m still 311. No loss, no gain. It’s one of those good and bad things. I’m happy I didn’t gain any weight but kinda saddened I haven’t lost a single pound yet. Not that I’m too surprised, it is just the beginning of a long journey. It is [...]

I have been named a Gold level sponsor for this year! seraphina, the chairperson for NLA-I DVP emailed me this week to notify me that my banner for The Iron Gate will appear in the sponsors area of the website for the next year. That’s not all though. I will also have a sponsorship spot [...]

Middle of the week and I don’t have anything to talk about.
I’ve been busy with work and website work. Not a lot of sexual appetite and Master is suffering, sort of. He’s playing a lot of games and while it’s not hard to get his attention; I’ve not bothered him really. He works so hard [...]

Yesterday’s rope demo munch has pretty good. We were new people at this munch and while there were no introductions we did feel… foreign. The rope demo however, was fantastic. Master and I as well as the entire group got hands on fun. Master didn’t learn a whole lot; but what he did was great.
The [...]

I have my first paid vacation starting now with my job. I have a list of things I want to do for the break and know that I don’t think I’ll get through them all; I will try. I’d love to have been able to go somewhere sandy, with oceans and sun. Instead I’m home; [...]

Frykitty asks: In Portland there’s a notorious swing club called Ace of Hearts. It’s had to move several times. Right now it’s on 39th. Anyway, it’s just a discreet little place with the ace of hearts sign out, and little else. Can’t see in, naturally. What would happen, do you think, [...]

I guess we all have our favorite BDSM websites we can’t live without. Here are a few of mine.
Personal Resource Sites:
Sir Knight’s Realm  ohhhhh yeah my bad thats mine and Sir Knight’s website.
The Iron Gate is one of the best BDSM resource sites i’ve ever come across. Luna has put her blood, sweat and tears [...]

What advice would you give to someone who wants to start engaging in BDSM?
Well, definitely don’t do what I did! I jumped in feet first without a safety net. It was reckless and dangerous and I could have wound up dead. Follow the boy scout motto: Be prepared

Have a safe call in place when [...]

A small but very powerful website/forum for abuse survivors is called Red-Letters. It allows for abuse survivors to anonymously post letters to their abuser. They are very raw and almost all will make you cry. I’m sure it’s therapeutic for survivors and I know that expressing some things that have been so hard may help [...]

The main reason I’m trying to raise money for the Domestic Violence Project is because I know how hard it can be to distinguish abuse from a safe, consensual relationship. I’ve done my research and know that the line between pleasure and pain is not only blurred but can be diluted as well. In a [...]

The NLA-I DVP is a project of the National Leather Association. They began in 1998 with the purpose of educating the BDSM community about the difference between consensual kinky play and abuse. They help victims seek safety and help and provide a large base of resources for the scene. They were the first SM organization [...]