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I’ve just finished Kushiel’s Justice which if you have read the Kushiel’s Legacy Series you will want to pick this up. I’ve been waiting for 5 months for it come out in paperback and the day finally came. I love it and was doubly excited to see that there is a finally book coming soon [...]

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Dear Master,
I’m going to try to keep my irritation of today out of this letter, but please forgive me if that becomes impossible.
The feelings I get when I look back on this week are all encompassed on Saturday. When I woke you up wearing lingerie and feeling fresh and happy with life it was like [...]

Yesterday was a battle of pig-headedness. Neither of us was communicating well and neither of us got what we wanted because of it. There were so many times I wished we could just rewind the day and start over.
A bit of back story… Master asked for a blow job. He asked for a specific blow [...]

How should I behave when being punished and why my current behavior is inappropriate.
Punishment behavior is something I think is a learned behavior. As a child, you learn to cry and scream and pout, whine and all over be a terror whenever you are punished. At least that was how it was with me. I [...]

We’ve been planning to evolve the current munch group into a better more community friendly group lately and with that comes a lot of brainstorming sessions, a lot of work and writing and planning, policy work, topic ideas and dreams of being able to do it all and succeed. The current group as it stands [...]

I’ve read a very good quote from an owner of a submissive who’s blog I read regularly. Kinky Little Girl was talking about punishment and how she let’s it continue to get to her after it’s over.
One of the earliest pieces of advice he ever gave me was, “Being a better submissive means learning to [...]

So a little while ago luna and I celebrated a year of her being collared by me. This seems like as good a time as any to start more intensive training in our relationship.
Most of you will probably think that 3 and a quarter years is a long time to wait before getting into the [...]

Thank you so much to everyone that commented on the Thursday question about the praise, “Good girl.” I loved reading about your thoughts and emotions.
For me, good girl is the catch all phrase for high praise. You hear it alot in some relationships and rarely in others. I think Master and I are more in [...]

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
How important is the [...]

From Bonnie’s Spanko Brunch:
When receiving a spanking, what sounds do you or your partner make? Does the spankee scream, cry, shout, beg, whimper, laugh, moan, or maybe something else? To what extent does the reaction depend upon the circumstances (such as the reason for the spanking, the severity, the implements employed, words used by the [...]

From Submissive Journal Prompts:
“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan
I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home [...]

I am an object of Master’s desire. His affection and passion are poured out on me, sometimes literally. Master loves to use me as an object, be that any orifice. I am his to do as he desires and from this I get so much power. Power to submit, power to feel, power to be [...]

You love me, you really really love me! I’ve been down on myself lately; yes. I’ve had so many comments and emails practically telling me what I should already know and don’t practice. I never knew you had it in you; let alone had it in me. I’m going to make some changes. I’m going [...]

I’m back to work today. I’m fighting the desire to sleep since I messed with my sleep cycle during vacation. I’m wearing the butt plug for training, I have the nipple clamps to endure as well. I do this so that Master is appeased and so that I can learn to get used to what [...]

uncreatedsnow brought this scenario to me and asked if I could talk about it; that it’s good for my theme this year:
Well an old boyfriend was trying to get back together with me, and being disinterested i explained that i was into kink/bdsm/etc. and that it just wouldn’t work or be the same… after explaining [...]

The key difference between S&M and Abuse, is “consent”.
Consent = Is an agreed approval of what is done and/or proposed by another.
Abuse = to use so as to injure or damage: MALTREAT
SM is

Is based on the safe, sane, consensual theory
SM is a controlled environment
SM has safe words to stop the scene
In a [...]

Please take time to read some great BDSM safety and abuse essays.
BDSM vs Abuse: whats the difference
Safety : In the BDSM lifestyle
Safe Sane Consensual : Words to live by
Spanking and Whipping: Safety First
Saftey First : Fun Second
First Aid Kit : Never leave home without it
Please remember you still have time to sponsor and help The [...]

I found this essay a few months ago and i wanted to share it with everyone.
Abuse vs Erotic Power Exchange
By:
The National Leather Association
The Dutch BDSM Media Information Center
The POWERotics Foundation
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should [...]

I wrote a poem to be submitted for the first game of the evening. Of course I won’t know if I won until I come back from my munch. Here’s the poem I submitted:
For a Cause
Strangers gather digitally
To raise money for charity.
No selfish gain;
A desire for change,
Blogs rise from nothing,
To spout poetry.
International friendship,
Searching for sponsorship.
Unusual [...]